Friend is so irritating but doesnt realise

[LittleMissHeadache]

I'm getting so pissed off with my friend lately I'm close to giving her a mouthful which I know will upset her and I'll regret but she's so bloody annoying.

She's a single parent with 2 kids and I'm married with 2 kids and despite the fact that my DH works full time and she doesnt, we always seemed to be in similar finantial states. Never had money for christmas, summer holidays, clothes etc and we used to moan together about it. However she always seemed to be able to go on holidays and buy more luxuries then we ever could. One time I upset her by saying "of course you're skint, you're on benefits, what's our excuse?" and she went in a mood for days.

Anyway about 6 months ago she got a job. Only part time in an office and all of a sudden she was loaded. Would go out buying all the most expensive clothes, booked weekends away with the kids and went to shows that I couldnt afford and it annoyed me because she only worked a few days a week and had much more money that us when DH works full time.

Now she keeps going on about all the stuff she's got her kids for christmas when she knows I'm struggling with mine, has said about how she is moving next year to get the kids in a better area/school when she knows I can't and keeps going on about saving up to take the kids to disney world when she knows I cant afford to go to spain.

It irritates me because as I say, DH works all week full time and brings home less than she does working 4 half days a week because tax credits practically double her money and she gets away with council tax rebates etc.

Do I say something to her to make her realise how she comes across or am I being mean?

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Oh I see Doodledoo, perhaps you are right then, seeing as how the op has 'vanished'

"The government choses to give them to me I do not claim them."

No, you have to apply for child benefit when your DCs are born or you don't get it. You don't receive it automatically.

Perhaps you'd feel better if you handed it back, since you claim not to really need it?

I think it's more likely the OP has been scared off by the vehemence of the responses against her.

I stuck up for her, if she exists that is !!

Yes Kitty and you dont seem to be responding to everyone elses response to you, do you?

Not surpised the OP hasn't been back!

So sorry spam, just trying to juggle the house and kids, I'll certainly try and make more time for you when I can

I was thinking that CB is a completely different issue. It is given to every mother by the government to help bring up the next generation. It is not dependent on wages or employment. Actually have HAVE talked about this. Why am I repeating myself fhs!!!!

well, what do you think single parent benefits are for, if not to help bring up the next generation? Crack and rent boys?

I would quite willingly give up all of my benefits to have a nice, kind, decent hardworking man in mine and my kids lives, even if that meant we were no better off.

It's not all about money you know. She is probably as lonely as hell and would give anything to be you, but has she mentioned that ?

If you are her friend you'd support her not talk about her like crap behind her back.

To be fair though Kitty - you didn't really respond to the other posts (can' imagine where you get time for MN with 6 kids anyway!!) - and do come across as someone who hasn't a clue about the benefit system other than what is written in the columns of the Daily Mail!!