Husband has had an affair and is leaving me

[Dontbeamugallyourlifesucker]

Shattered

2 children.. 5 and 7..I love them so much 😍 just keeping them feed.. Clean and watered.. Bless them but I feel ill due to shingles.. it's hard for them also.

What a pair of shits they are. I know how heartbreaking this is and I'm so sorry you are going through this. It seems overwhelming now but you will get through this

Thank you.. I am really going to bed this time and will catch up tomorrow xx

Right love. He doesn't get to 'just leave you with no money' when he has two small children. So the minute you feel able, get onto him about that and if he continues to be a dick, get straight onto the CMS.

I'm so sorry you have shingles, it is very debilitating and you must be feeling awful. And it is great that your dad is stepping up. But your husband also doesn't just get to walk away...

It only had he left you with no money, he’s left his kids with no money too? Vile and pathetic excuse for a man.

Not only has he left you*

@GoGoGretaDoll

Right love. He doesn't get to 'just leave you with no money' when he has two small children. So the minute you feel able, get onto him about that and if he continues to be a dick, get straight onto the CMS.

I'm so sorry you have shingles, it is very debilitating and you must be feeling awful. And it is great that your dad is stepping up. But your husband also doesn't just get to walk away...

Get onto CMS now. Don't bother giving him a chance.

CMS now.

Contact any friends in RL and other school mums.

Contact a local community group, contact your GP. What a shit bag he is.

@SpiceRat

It only had he left you with no money, he’s left his kids with no money too? Vile and pathetic excuse for a man.

Yes- he’s left his little children without money. His little children have only been fed and kept warm by the kindness of your dad. What a wicked man. I hope you’re able to get good advice and that your shingles clear up soon. Very best wishes.

We’re all here for you all night

This is awful OP, really feel for you and your pain is leaping through the page. Take it one day at a time whilst you build your resilience. Lean on your friends and family and all those who care for you

Hi Dontbe,
No, it was fine, just some teen dafties posting on the thread. Hopefully the cider will kick in and they'll be out in a park soon.
As for the rest, don't worry but we are just going to run our usual message...
Right now we can't see any evidence to indicate that the OP isn't above board - if we did, we'd remove the thread straight away. But the truth is that, sadly, we at MNHQ can't know with 100% certainty that any poster is genuine, no matter who they are or how long they have been around. As frustrating as it is, we're not able to vouch for anyone here.

So we always ask everyone to remember that not everyone on the internet is who they say they are - and remind folk not to give more to another poster, either financially (in cash or gifts) or emotionally (in time or care and support) than they'd be prepared to lose if things went wrong.

Cheers, and hope you sleep well Dontbe.

Nothing much to add, except that he is a complete cunt, and the sooner you start to feel angry towards him, the better.

Hope you have a good rest, and wake up feeling a little better tomorrow xx

So sorry. Hope you get some sleep.

So many of us have been through this. Stay strong and keep posting.

He's left you for an affair, he's done you a big favour. You can now take each day at a time and sort yourself out. He and the friend deserve each other, a right pair of scumbags. Advice on here, legal advice and from cms asap.

So sorry you are going through this.

It is shite. No question.

But when the shock has subsided you will see him for the arse he is.

No one needs a liar or cheat as a partner.

@Dontbeamugallyourlifesucker

I have an attack of shingles all up my face/head... Works not happy that I am taking a few days off work feeling so low today

Poor you, Shingles is brought on by stress, I’m sure.. What an Arse your husband is. I was left on Boxing Day years ago- the shock was numbingly awful. It seems even worse in the bleak short days of winter. Things will be tough for a while, but you WILL recover and get out the other side.

@iheartredsquirrels

He's left you for an affair, he's done you a big favour. You can now take each day at a time and sort yourself out. He and the friend deserve each other, a right pair of scumbags. Advice on here, legal advice and from cms asap.

And how long will it be before he does the same to her.

Oh Op I’m so sorry. What a bastard. Double the betrayal. Rubbish took its self out! Rest up, you deserve better x

Of course he'll do it to the ow because he's a shit, but she must be stupid if she thinks otherwise. She's created a vacancy. OP is free of him but she won't be cheated on by him now, and the 'friend' is not great loss.

@Dontbeamugallyourlifesucker

2 children.. 5 and 7..I love them so much 😍 just keeping them feed.. Clean and watered.. Bless them but I feel ill due to shingles.. it's hard for them also.

Shingles is incredibly painful! Had a bout in lockdown and never imagined that they could be so painful I too felt exhausted and tired before the rash came out, and the wretched blisters began to form

The pain is like being stung by 100 wasps,, having severe sunburn, and underneath, a deep gnawing ache.
Can you get antivirals?
It is it too far in ?

Hope the pain - at least of the shingles- eases soon.

Re money, my husband left me penniless.
It was a desperate time.
I took in two lodgers, which helped with bills
One is still a friend years later.

I’m so sorry op what a shit he is. What are your circumstances, are you working? He needs to pay for his children of course. If you feel up to it start sorting out benefits and child maintenance.
It must be a huge shock right now but you will feel better in time.

Just sending a bit of love. You are going to be fine, I know it sounds trite but a lot of us have been there and been destroyed and came back stronger.