This is long winded but I will try to keep it clear and concise. I don't really know what I'm looking for but I'm in total shock and disgust and just could do with some support.
In a nutshell, DP and I have been in the middle of breaking up for the last 3 months, but having 2 young children and owning a house together it's been complicated and drawn out, but amicable day to day and we've still been doing things as a family. I very much wanted the breakup, DP didn't.
Anyway, he suggested (having some annual leave this week) that he might go away for a couple of nights to get some headspace, think about things, take some time to himself. I was supportive of it because I felt like I needed some distance from him too.
Long story short, he'd had the house rigged with cameras and watching my every move for 48hrs, live from his phone!!!!
I had a friend round whom I was moaning to about him, and he has videos of me masturbating in the bedroom!
Honestly I'm so sickened and horrified, I left last night and came straight to my mum's but I haven't slept and feel fucking violated. He's convinced I'm seeing someone else (despite no evidence of it whatsoever) and has flipped his lid because I was fantasising / enjoying myself - which he know has footage of?!
What the fuck do I do?! I've tried to look for legal advice online but it seems a grey area re recording in your own home. I know if he shared it there are revenge porn laws but is there anyway I can ensure those videos are definitely gone??
The fact he has gone out of his way to buy, install, set up cameras, book a hotel under the pretence of a break! And spent the 2 days away literally watching my every move!!!
I can't bear the thought of being anywhere near him but there isn't really space at my mum's for me and the kids. I just feel completely lost, exhausted and actually feel quite abused!