We’ve been together 2.5 years. I have a DD from previous relationship. DD and I are spending actual Xmas Day and Boxing Day with my family and OH is invited (but has declined and will spend it with his parents which is totally fine). I want OH and I to do our own Xmas the weekend beforehand when my DD will be with her Dad. OH is feeling really down as he has fallen out with his grown up kids (they do seem to have behaved very badly towards him). This has been going on really since I’ve known him but now the falling out has reached a peak in the last few months. OH is now dreading Xmas because his kids won’t be there. He doesn’t want to celebrate with me the weekend before (or at all). I was so looking forward to some happy time together. He’s been miserable for months and I’ve been his shoulder to cry on. We missed out last year due to COVID (but he was pretty miserable last Xmas too) and the year before because he was busy / down on the run up to Xmas.
I don’t feel like a priority. I’m good enough to deal with all the shitty stuff but not to make an effort for. I’m annoyed and hurt. He says we will do “something” but is not clear about what that is and won’t discuss it and to be honest I’m not convinced that it will be anything like the lovely couply pre-Xmas weekend i hope for or that he won’t end up making other plans that take over most of the weekend.
Am I being a twat? He really is proper down. I’m just so sick of everything being about his selfish kids and his shitty ex. (His words not mine). Is it unreasonable to expect him to try and up his game for my benefit just for Xmas?