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Ex of 5 years text me at midnight last night…

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ston · 26/11/2021 14:54

My ex of 5 years broke up with me at the end of July. My world completely changed from then. I went into a deep deep depression and had to go on antidepressants which I am still on. The breakup has impacted me in so many ways. I’m now dealing with acne again at 25 years old from all the stress it’s caused me.

I was so devasted when he broke up with me out the blue. I even met up with him a month after he broke up with me and slept with him. I was not in a good way then.

I have definitely got better since then. I did text him drunk about a month ago but after that night I deleted his number and haven’t interacted with him since.

In the last two weeks I’ve been to two black tie events with work in London. I wake up this morning and he had text me at midnight saying hey, how are you? I was obviously asleep so just replied this morning saying okay thanks you. He said that he was out drinking. He said to me “I see you’ve been living the high life, wining and dining and mingling with celebrities.” He also says things like I don’t want to never speak to you again (he said this last time I drunk text him first) and that he didn’t think I’d want me to text him. I haven’t been replying with much but he isn’t either. He took 2 hours to reply to one message.

It feels to me that he has seen I’m doing fine without him (I’m still not great but obviously Instagram stories show a different picture). Why has he text me if he cba to even reply/ make conversation. A drunk mistake? What do I do?

OP posts:
Peony15 · 26/11/2021 22:46

This is a really great blogger , lots of great advice.
www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/list-of-posts/

Midnight usually equals drunk / emotional texting. Same message might not be sent in the cold light of day with a sensible mindframe, generally. If they want to be with you they move mountains and don't treat you badly. Never be Plan B either.
It sucks

Didimum · 26/11/2021 22:48

What a dick. Please have higher standards for yourself. No one needs that trash in their lives.

MMmomDD · 27/11/2021 00:17

What you do is live your life. And enjoy it.
You are young and not many people end up spending their life with someone they met at 20.

It hurts now, and feels unbearable - but trust me, time will pass and you’ll be OK again. And you’ll be happy with someone else one day. Hopeful having learned something from that first relationship.

Good luck!

Aquamarine1029 · 27/11/2021 00:24

The only reason this twat wants to meet you in London is for an easy shag. FFS, don't lower yourself to keep communicating with this fuckwit. You've wasted enough of your youth on him. Move on!

RantyAunty · 27/11/2021 00:52

There is no great mystery for exs being in contact.

It's always because they want something from you; a shag, money, place to stay.

Have you blocked him yet?

Snugglybuggly · 27/11/2021 00:58

Ignore him!

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