How would you take this?

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Boyfriend of 5 months heavily into named clothing. I do wear named stuff but not as much as him.

He's bought me cheap named clothes recently which I've been happy with, things he thought I would like, for example my favourite colours and styles.

He said the other day "now you're 80% cooler than when I first met you" (joking)

What would you think?

I'd think he was making a joke.

If it was a one-off comment, take it as it is. A joke.

If it continues, call him out on it.

If you don't like it, say so.

I wouldn't think anything 🤷‍♂️

I'd probably quip back about one day maybe he can catch me up or something similar

Sounds like a joke and unless there's anything else to add, that's how I would take it

Thanks

He's always commenting on how cool someone's clothes are when out in public. But the ones I can remember are all women, even elderly!

He seems obsessed with clothing.

Anyone else have a partner that puts so much emphasis on names, or visa versa?

Label obsessively are so boring and unimaginative. He sounds rather superficial, op.

He sounds shallow.

Think he was shallow and immature and controlling, some men like to have control over what their gf wears although if you like what he bought you wear it but don't be afraid to embrace your own style and not to please him.

Did you want the clothes?

Yes my partner is like this. I'm the opposite. I still wear stuff I've had for 10 years. He buys me nice clothes and makes comments like that. It grates on me sometimes but I do appreciate him buying me stuff as I know it's more stylish and expensive than what I would choose.

If it bothers you, you should definitely voice it.

I have a friend who’s very label obsessed and she has raised a son who at 14 will only wear certain brands ( I don’t mean high street but designer). I like nice clothes that are good quality but love digging around in charity shops. My friend knows it’s ridiculous but continues to indulge anyway. Your boyfriend sounds similar - would he ever wear preloved or has it got to be new too?

I'd think he was an idiot.

It would get in my nerves

How "cool"? Is he 20? If not, I'd think he was negging you. You'd know he was joking and wouldn't post here if all was well.

He just likes clothes. No major issue.

It seems pretty.... immature, I guess.

I like nice clothes as much as the next person, but I don't see it as a mark of 'coolness' or whatever to wear a specific brand.

Which brands is he into?

I'd think he was a bit of a pratt tbh

Thanks.

It's always second hand stuff.

It would be worse I suppose if he was wanting me to wear sexy stuff, but then it's the fact that he thinks he has such a big influence on what I wear anyway.

I think there has been many a woman who has felt the need / desire to makeover their partners. I know my very label conscious friend would have issues with a man in “bad” shoes ( not that I’m saying you need a makeover - just that it’s a common phenomena.)

I’d hate someone to buy my clothes and expect me to wear them so I wouldn’t like that comment.

I would think he was a shallow, judgemental knob.

Some people want to look like walking billboards. l personally do not feel the need to advertise where l bought my clothes, and am glad my sons don' t buy into it either, but each to their own.
l know what l like and what suits me, l dress for myself, not to please anyone else. An old ex was abit of a snob clothes wise, we weren' t really that compatable because l sport the more "vintage" look.

I'd think he was making a joke.

He feels validated by wearing expensive brands.

And IMO that’s shallow

Sounds like a vacuous prick.