Is there a future or is it a polite dumping ?

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Below is a text from a girl I have been dating we have been on loads of dates and I have met her family. The first yeah we are is in response to me asking if we are still good together.

Is this a polite way of letting me go or is she genuinely saying let me get sorted and time will tell?

Yeah we are, but I just can’t give you anything right now. I need to get my head right before anything, I’m not the best person to be around right now I just need to concentrate on me for a while
Xxxxxxxxx

Dumping. Sorry x

To be honest it sounds more about what’s going on with her than dumping, I would give her space and respect it but if it felt right you could also say you understand and are sorry and if she ever needs support to let her know?

It's a dumping I think. Possibly temporary, but I wouldn't hold my breath. Sorry x

It's a polite dumping.

Dumping

I've been there before where my mind wasn't right for a relationship. At least she's being honest and didn't ghost you.

Yeah a polite dump

Polite dumping.
She's not ready for a relationship right now.

100% polite dumping. Cast-iron.

Sounds like she’s dumping you.

Take it at face value. She needs space. I've been there and the most helpful thing you can do is say something like "I understand. Thank you for being honest. I'm here if you want to talk but no pressure, I'm backing right off. X"

Sorry OP, it must hurt.

It's a dumping. Don't waste your time on hanging around for her. Go live your life and find someone who's in the right place for a relationship and wants to be with you.

Polite dumping. Sorry 💕

Would you really want to continue a relationship with someone who communicates with you in a way you don't understand, anyway? Someone you have to consult the internet to grasp what she's telling you?

I'd be dumping her for ambiguity! Ending a relationship, if you care about the person, is a sensitive thing to do. You want to leave them but make sure they understand that there's no hard feelings etc. And if she's not dumping you, that's a horribly unclear text to send you.

Dumped dude! Move on.

100% polite no thanks I'm afraid. Sorry mate x

It's the old Dumperoo.

Version of "It's not you, it's me".

Yup.
She's ended things.
Don't keep trying to contact her. She is asking you to leave her alone

Why did you ask her if you were still good? Did you get a sense that she was pulling away?
I'm sorry but that's definitely a dumping.

She’s dumped you. Time to delete her number

@NynaeveSedai

Why did you ask her if you were still good? Did you get a sense that she was pulling away? I'm sorry but that's definitely a dumping.

I asked as we had a great date on Saturday but due to work I wasn't able to talk yesterday

Depends what going on for her. If she's got some big life event or issue or is ill she may genuinely need space. If it's out of nowhere its either a polite dumping or a self indulgent woman who thinks she can pick you up and leave you alone when the fancy takes her. So unless there's a reason for this, i'd consider it done, even if she decides to reconnect at a later stage, or she'll have you on and off at her whim, and you won't know where you are.

Yes sounds like a dump
I’d be very strong and NOT reply
Leave it , archive her and or delete her number

Sorry 😞

Dumping but fret not!

How you react can change it all both with your own self worth and how you come off to her.

Beware most who have posted here don’t take this advice and they remain mad trying to make something happen the wrong way.

Stop contacting her. Totally. Stop. Show some backbone and restraint. You can’t convince someone to show up for you.

I’ve been there, no judgement.

I’m begging you to make sure you never contact this person. They will more than likely reach out.. because they expect you to have been simpering for them.

You deserve better. Someone who you don’t have to go through this with.
You’re the prize. Please embrace that. Move on.

I’m begging you to make sure you never contact this person. They will more than likely reach out.. because they expect you to have been simpering for them

Do it for all of us !!!!