Is there a future or is it a polite dumping ?

[waltontiget]

Below is a text from a girl I have been dating we have been on loads of dates and I have met her family. The first yeah we are is in response to me asking if we are still good together.

Is this a polite way of letting me go or is she genuinely saying let me get sorted and time will tell?

Yeah we are, but I just can’t give you anything right now. I need to get my head right before anything, I’m not the best person to be around right now I just need to concentrate on me for a while
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It’s a dump.

You may be right you’ve had great dates, but she either doesn’t want a relationship, or doesn’t think you are the right person, and is politely letting you know.

Send a see you around text, and move on.

She's flimsy. Let her go and find someone better.

Sounds flaky OP, reminds me of a guy who led me on years ago and would flip-flop on commitment all the time. Shame, but you don't need the strife.

My partner did this when we first got together; after a few months I wanted to know if this was a relationship or what and she ended up ending things using a similar reason.

I did contact her a few days later, just a hey you ok kind of thing. I backed right off but we stayed in touch, and over the following few weeks, things picked up again. She needed me to take the pressure off.

We’ve now been together 2.5 years, own a house and a dog. So sometimes it is just face value - she had a lot going on and I was adding pressure by wanting to define what we were and she was a self declared commitmentphobe. But I would say my situation was very much not the norm and at the time, I thought she ended it.

@Foreverlexicon

My partner did this when we first got together; after a few months I wanted to know if this was a relationship or what and she ended up ending things using a similar reason.

I did contact her a few days later, just a hey you ok kind of thing. I backed right off but we stayed in touch, and over the following few weeks, things picked up again. She needed me to take the pressure off.

We’ve now been together 2.5 years, own a house and a dog. So sometimes it is just face value - she had a lot going on and I was adding pressure by wanting to define what we were and she was a self declared commitmentphobe. But I would say my situation was very much not the norm and at the time, I thought she ended it.

Aww that's very good to know , She has been honest till now about her life and the issues she's had so fingers crossed it's the same for me as your time