I've been ill with a really bad cold for the last few days so my boyfriend has been sleeping on the sofa to give me space. He came in in the morning to ask how I was doing and I told him I feel terrible, he said "yeah you look rough. You always look rough though" I said "wtf!" at the comment incredulously and he laughed and said "I didn't mean it like that". I'm left thinking what other meaning is there to take from that comment but brushed off cos I was ill af and thought he was probably trying to do some kind of jokey banter, our banter can be quite close to the bone sometimes but I never say anything negative about his appearance, joking or not.
Thing is, it's not the first time he has said something like this. I have slightly thin hair in places from stress/medication and once he was lying behind me hugging me and randomly said "baldy". When I confronted him and told him how much it upset me he said he wasn't talking about me but some footballer he'd just been reading about
I also heard him singing a presumably made up song , right after we'd had sex, something like "my girlfriend has a big bum but not as big as her stomach"
There have been quite a few other instances like this too.
I'm very slim size 8 for what it's worth, though my stomach isn't totally flat. I'm not a model but generally considered attractive. I have a lot of insecurities about my appearance like a lot of women so I don't appreciate this kind of stuff coming from someone who's meant to care about me, not that I expect to be worshipped and complimented all the time either
These comments are always done in a jokey way and when I pull him up on them he either denies it or says he's joking and then is absolutely all over me with affection and trying to do things for me (cook etc)
Ive only been in one other long term relationship and that was outright abusive. I'm struggling to understand if I'm over reacting because of my past but beginning to feel really unhappy and resentful