What to do.....

[Low80]

Can someone please advise me?

I'm 39, been with my partner for 17 years with 2 children.

To cut a long story short, I've changed and grown apart and I don't love her anymore and have been wanting out for a few months. There's no other women involved.

I just can't summon up the words to tell her. I don't want to hurt her or my children. It's given me extreme anxiety and I can't even eat or sleep properly with this on mind.

Do I wait until after Xmas or do it asap?

So does she feel that being married would make you less likely to break up/more likely to work on issues? Or do you think she is looking to protect herself legally when you do break up?
In any case it sounds like she has some idea things are not good, so taking marriage off the table could be a first step towards breaking up, if you are hesitant about taking the big step straight away? It might become a mutual process rather than something you do to her?

[quote Low80]@ravenmum I'd say since we had a big row earlier this year, she's now suddenly talking of a desperation to get married[/quote]
Because she knows she’d be financially better off married.