I just don't get it..

[TypeR10]

Hiya, just after a bit of advice really.
Recently my OH has gone really cold towards me. The mention of getting close to me for cuddles or me trying to initiate sex he looks absolutely disgusted. He won't talk to me about things either. He's been rather snappy with me too. I mentioned about maybe going away for a weekend next year somewhere I've not been for ages said it would be nice to go with him he properly bit my head off saying I wish you stop planning my life for me.

But, hes only been like this with me. He is fine with everyone else.
Hes had some stresses with family being ill and I know he's missing his kids but why is he just being this towards me? I've only ever tried to help him with things tried to lessen the load for him.

He tells me he loves me but he's just stopped trying to show me kind of. Does he actually love me and want me around him or am I just convenient to share the housework and look after his kids on a weekend?

Hes playing with my head big time. Oh and he's been lying about talking to his ex. I know they talk because of the kids but why lie about it?

Help! I feel like I'm going mad!

It's hard I have a boyfriend who is a natural moody sod. He is hard work to the point where I sit sometimes and think what am I doing. I used to be particularly terrible for getting upset and trying to do the right thing. But now I don't take it how i did before. If he's being off and funny with me I offer him to make a choice. I say I'm not willing to have a relationship like this so if I get on your nerves just say and we can leave it. Or I say I'm not doing this so we either talk it through now or we leave it.

I can't stand atmosphere. He's happy to bite and go quiet and off. But I find it disrespectful.

My advice is confront it and make a cuppa and sit down and talk. If that fails tell him what you are expecting to change and if it doesn't then you are wondering the reasons to carry on. There's is nothing wrong with you wanting to have a break together. His comment is ridiculous.

@honeylulu

Everything *@updownroundandround* said.

AND I reckon he's doing a cost benefit analysis of what the relationship gains him. He doesn't fancy you any more but it suits him to share the bills and chores. The really striking thing is that he suddenly makes an effort to keep you sweet when his kids are coming for the weekend and need looking after Quelle Surprise!

This. And if you decide to just get used to him being cold towards you when you feel like it, you’re setting yourself up for a miserable future with this man and your self-esteem will plummet. I hope you decide to save yourself.