To be totally clear, he’s NOT in a relationship with anyone or married, we spend nearly every night together and he’s not sex obsessed. These things are bothering me though…
Nine months in and:
he’s not mentioned me to colleagues (says he likes to keep personal things separate to work)
I haven’t met his family as they are far away (4 hours) even though he’s seen them a few times since we’ve been together
Not mentioned me to friends because he wants to tell them in person and he’s not seen his close friends in a long time due to covid and work (they all work in different cities but I feel like he could have mentioned it in text?!)
No interest in meeting my family though he does ask about them
He’s got a contract ending with work soon, which means he could be relocating to any of a few areas. When I asked where we fit into that if we are still together he just said that he assumed it would be fine wherever because I work from home. But I just sense he’s not considered me in it at all.
The other night he was telling me that Bruges was an amazing place to go to, lots of detail and then said ‘if you ever get chance to go make sure you do.’ I thought this was a strange thing to say, almost something you’d say to a distant friend or colleague or acquaintance. I can’t explain exactly why I found it odd but I did…
He often says things like ‘I’m looking forward to getting a house with x y or z in it.’ As if it’s his own objective and no hint that that could be our objective. Obviously it’s too soon for us to be buying a house or anything but I’ve never had a relationship where someone is so distinctly separate about things with me.
Would these things bother you? He’s quite sincere and quiet and I don’t think he’s doing anything with any ulterior motive but I often feel upset and confused by his behaviour. Is this thing usual?