Partner complimenting women

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My partner who works in a shop has told me that if he serves a female who has nice eyes or a nice smile he will tell her.

He doesn't think this is being flirtatious. However if a man serving me said this to me I would be a bit embarrased and think he was flirting with me.

He said he doesn't say it to men because he doesn't want them to think he fancies them.

What do people think here, is it flirtatious to tell a woman she has nice eyes or a nice smile?

It would creep me out if a random man in a shop said this to me.

Weird and inappropriate. I think a rule of thumb is not to comment on a stranger's looks, ever.

I don’t think it’s necessarily flirtatious. It’s just a nice thing to say to someone. But it depends on his manner.

Flirty and unnecessary. If it was innocent he would say it to everyone not just women.
Also creepy and weird.

‘Have a great day!’
‘Hope you have a good evening!’
Niceties that aren’t weird.

So he thinks that all women require validation from him? ... Is he qualified in some way that would make his opinion on the subject important to them?

(Fom what he says, he doesn't mind them thinking that he fancies them - so is flirting.)

He doesn’t want men to think he fancies them but he does want random women to think that

Sounds like a catch

He said he doesn't say it to men because he doesn't want them to think he fancies them.

So, clearly he doesn't mind if the women think he fancies them. Which does rather suggest he's doing it somewhat flirtatiously.
While some women don't mind, many really don't appreciate personal comments about their looks from anyone, and least of all a male stranger.

Totally inappropriate . I would find this sexist and embarrassing. He sounds like an unreconstructed man of the ‘50s!

I would hate it if someone working in a shop did that to me. Definitely creepy and inappropriate.

Yuck

Very slimy behaviour. I'd actively avoid the shop if he was serving.

If someone complimented my features etc I'd find it a bit 🙄 but if someone told me outfit I had on really suited me or something like that it'd probably cheer me right up!

He sounds like a walking contradiction.

If it’s so innocent he’d be complimenting men equally. But he doesn’t because I’m sure he knows it’s weird and inappropriate.

If I’m out shopping the last thing I want or need is some random commenting on my appearance.

Ew

It's always nice to have a reminder that women are constantly under the male gaze & appraised on our fuckability looks along with ones shopping.

So creepy, tell him to stop

Ugh, creep.

I'd lose all respect for my partner if he did this.

It's creepy, uncomfortable and inappropriate. I hate when men do stuff like this as if we are meant to be flattered they deign to find us attractive when we just want to buy something.

He sounds like an idiot OP.

@GroggyLegs

It's always nice to have a reminder that women are constantly under the male gaze & appraised on our fuckability looks along with ones shopping.

This. Bleurgh.

I was OK with it (on your behalf!) Until he said he doesn't say it to men as he doesn't want them to think he fancies them....so it sounds like he doesn't mind giving that impression to these women with the 'nice eyes'. I'm ridiculously slow at catching on if someone is into me, but if a random guy went to the effort to tell me I had nice eyes I'd certainly think he was flirting.

I don't know about flirtatious, but I do find it uncomfortable when somebody is handling my shopping and makes some kind of comment about my looks. It has happened a few times and I can honestly say it has never cheered me up or made me feel better about myself. Just a bit creepy.

If I'm in a shop I just want to buy my shopping and leave without any closer inspection. It's almost, but not quite, on a level with a man telling you to smile while you're just trying to pay for your cornflakes

He’s a leching prick.

God, what a daft, creepy prick. Tell him to keep his fat mouth shut. Why you're with him is beyond me.