Partner complimenting women

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My partner who works in a shop has told me that if he serves a female who has nice eyes or a nice smile he will tell her.

He doesn't think this is being flirtatious. However if a man serving me said this to me I would be a bit embarrased and think he was flirting with me.

He said he doesn't say it to men because he doesn't want them to think he fancies them.

What do people think here, is it flirtatious to tell a woman she has nice eyes or a nice smile?

So he doesnt say it to men because he doesnt want them to think that he fancies them but with women, that's perfectly OK?

YoYou should do the same and complement a male shop assistant on hisyes, hair etc right in front of your partner and see how he likes that. I bet he wouldnt.

It depends on how it's said. I've been complimented by men and it was clear they were not coming onto me or anything of the kind. It lifted my day - in the same it does when a woman compliments me.
And it is different when men speak to men.
If a woman writes a friendly letter to either a man or a woman, they can end the letter with 'lots of love, ...'
When a man writes to a woman they can end a letter with 'lots of love, ...'.
But a heterosexual man writing to a male friend would not end a letter with 'lots of love, ...'. In general that's just not what men would do.

How dare he.

Lets hope he never comes across my daughter, she'd annihllate him.

And why did he tell you?

I would find it creepy and inappropriate... Unless I fancied him, in which case I might think he was flirting with me.

I can't really see any positive reason as to why your partner does this, or why he would tell you about it.

I can think of one reason he told you - to make you feel insecure. It has worked in a way for you to post about it. He is being a dick, I think it is disrespectful to you, not appropriate at work either. I'd be running a mile.

It is completely inappropriate. I'm sorry, but he's a lech! My husband always did this and it is definitely not for innocent reasons!

I think married men - or those in relationships are showing a complete lack of respect to their wives/partners when they do this. I know, as it always made me feel humiliated (when he complimented women in front of me!) And I was even once told by a female friend, that another female friend of mine was 'crowing' over me behind my back, because she assumed my husband must have found her more attractive than me.

Don't accept it OP. It really, really sucks to be the wife of a slimeball.