Music whilst having sex.

[Ilovetheseventies]

The other day I felt abit rotten but my DP put on some music before sex. I said I didn't really like it as I found it distracting. I know alot of people probably do like this.
We did go through a stage where music was on but once it was Bjork who I don't mind but I just burst out laughing as it just didn't fit.
I've put my own music on before but I find it quite distracting.
He is also one of these sort of music experts and seems to know every genre. I don't think our music tastes match. So I'm always a little anxious about what I play. I know I should just like what I like..and he certainly makes it clear what he does and doesn't like. It's all individual though.
I don't think I'd mind but I'd like to be asked what do you want to listen to. It's always something obscure. This woman was singing and I felt as if there was three of us in the room ! Nuts I know...
Go easy on me I'm very sensitive due to menopause..

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This reminds me of a relationship I had where he insisted on putting 'Bad' by MJ on. The album title was certainly prophetic.

My husband and I sound quite similar to you and your partner, except I’m the music fan and he finds it distracting.
I don’t want him being distracted so we generally don’t have music on when we have sex.
I have it on at pretty much every other point during the day so I don’t mind compromising on that point for him.

I listen to a lot of New Retro Wave music, it's very relaxing, me and an ex had a great time whilst this was playing in the background.
Long sex sessions.

Even now, a bit of George Michael has me all remembering and smiley.

Ilovetheseventies
You never know, it just might work.

Seriously, I've never really associated particular music with sex.

I don't mind if it's on in the background. A guy I was seeing for a while always used to put the same CD on & sex with him was always very predictable, but nice. More loving than earth shattering, but it was a nice time of my life & those songs always make me smile.

@EnigmaCat 🤣🤣

What about DTD to the Bee Gees? Maybe How deep is your love?

I remember one particularly awful occasion with 'Boogie Nights' on the radio. The beat was all wrong

SpookyPumpkinPants
It was either that or the hokey cokey.

Never to music. One of my true crime podcasts could be good though.

I thought this was going to be a thread asking for recommendations for your sex playlist! I almost always have music playing during sex. I find silence really awkward. (I have tinnitus also which doesn't help.)

I keep the volume low, so it's background rather than intrusive. And I don't put on songs that I feel compelled to sing/dance to, because I have embarrassed myself before by breaking off a blowjob to mosh to a bassline 🤦🏻‍♀️

Guy I’d met at uni came round and put on a Panic!At the Disco album before we DTD - I got the absolute ‘ick’ mid foreplay when he started properly panting and heavy breathing the lyrics into my ear 😳🤢🤮 I couldn’t bring myself to keep going and had to tell him to leave 🙈🤣 never saw him again.

I wouldn't put it on specially, but (when we first got together) the radio used to be on in the background. That was back when the sex happened wherever, we are married now and the sex is purely a bedtime activity so no music anymore!

I did once have sex to the Beach Boys "Good Vibrations" which was exactly right on the night ! But I was about 18 and at the peak of my young life at the time !

Nowadays I much prefer no music at all. Too distracting ! If DH put something on specifically for it's sexy content I'd find that too cringey for words !

@Sexytimeusername more noshing, less moshing, perhaps

My last ever shag was to music - Postmodern Jukebox version of Radiohead's Creep is the song I remember. Not a bad memory for 3 years ago

My first boyfriend was a big fan of the musical shag. The night he told me he was leaving me for someone else, and I was young and naive and thought he wouldn't go and didn't mean it because he wanted to sleep with me that night despite the other girl, he put on the Bryan Adams album "On a Day Like Today". I still can't hear that without shuddering.

Being an old punk I think I'd give myself a heart attack shagging to music! Orgasm addict (buzzcocks) immediately springs to mind on that score. Bodies (sex pistols) wouldn't be the best turn on either...I think I'll leave the music for cooking 😁

Just wondering now how many Mumsnet members were conceived to Serge Gainsbourg and Jane Birkin singing je t'aime...moi non plus!

Ah this reminds me of this guy many years ago who put on a Metallica song while we were DTD and attempted to keep pace with it, which was already pretty funny, but then he went for a massive thrust during the crescendo, missed, got my thigh and nearly broke his dick in half.

Didn’t stop laughing for about 15 minutes

We've given it a go and it has worked once. The other time though the muppet song 'muh na muh na' started playing which was...unsexy

@WingBingo

Iron & Wine, The Civil Wars and Damien Rice were sex songs back in the day.

I had an orgasm the entire length of a song once 😮

Can’t do it these days though, too distracting.

You had like a 4 minute orgasm??

@Damnloginpopup

Being an old punk I think I'd give myself a heart attack shagging to music! Orgasm addict (buzzcocks) immediately springs to mind on that score. Bodies (sex pistols) wouldn't be the best turn on either...I think I'll leave the music for cooking 😁

Iggy Pop is perfect for shagging. Just saying.

It makes me feel a bit like I’m in a sex scene in a film 😂 so I am at risk of getting distracted and giggling to myself. I wouldn’t put music on myself but wouldn’t object if I turned up at a lover’s door & there was music playing in the background as we got down to it.

I find it intrusive and distracting and so never have music on. I want to concentrate fully on what we're doing, not be listening to someone else! I think of music as a bit, try-hard, corny, cliched.

Each to their own though.

But if you don't like it then you have to tell him. In a good relationship you can both be honest about your feelings (and don't apologise for being honest), and you should compromise equally.

Hopefully he will want you to be happy and enjoy the moment, so will stop playing music. Don't leave it though, or it will get harder to say 'I've never liked it....'.

If you can't be honest and tell him you don't like it, then your problem is bigger than the music.

The songs that are coming into my head after reading this are making me chuckle. I like to move it move it...