Feeling so irritable and cross with DP. Is it me, or him?

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I’m feeling so fed up.

We came back from holiday on thursday, and of course there were piles of laundry and general resulting chaos. On top of this, we have a crawling baby who has a lot of toys.

We travelled through the night on Thursday and so while I sorted the laundry I hadn’t put it away. Yesterday in the middle of me doing DS’s bath, DP came in and started moaning about ‘clothes covering every surface’ and then as I was trying to get the baby to sleep I couldn’t because DP was constantly moving about.

I ended up putting the baby down and joining him ‘cleaning.’ The whole operation of sorting a three bed house took less than half an hour - it really was just a few clothes and toys in the toy box.

He’s been irritating me for a while and most of it is such small things but I don’t know whether I’m being irritable or whether he’s being irritating. Like last night - why in gods name is bedtime the time to clean a house?

I don’t get the replies on here. If dh told me the washing basket was full but did nothing about it I’d be really pissed off - so you’ve seen a job and reported it to me… what he’s really saying is ordering me to do it. Op’s dh could say I can’t cope with the clothes everywhere but then he should pick up the clothes.

I think you were totally wrecked after coming home from the holidays as you would be with little children so he should have just left you getting the baby to sleep and tidied up himself if he wanted to but i figure he was tired and clothes hanging about were annoying him.

My son does this im trying to get his brother to sleep he bursts in to tell me his brother has peed on the floor again (sen) or he needs a covid test done right now its! its disruptive irritating and drags my evening out longer just let me finish this one bloody thing (and he can wipe the floor himself he just NEEDS to report it to me)

He does feel the rough arse of my tongue at times but it's usually along the lines of I appreciate your urgency however...is something on fire? Is an animal or human in danger? No? It can wait! He apologises and texts me the issue

I'd be frustrated at my partner if this was an example of their continuous approach to household chores and then getting a bag on about it.

He sounds like a lazy arse that's missing a mommy. Good luck.

Your being irritated is totally fair, if similar happens again say of course I can clean it up, here you do bedtime and walk out. Then loudly tidy like he was and once you’re done sit down and have a cuppa while he keeps getting baby to bed