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How often do you and your partner kiss?

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MrsTxx · 29/10/2021 22:55

Background: young couple with a nursery age child (3). We just are not affectionate at all? I just don’t understand why. What is your normal in your relationship?
We are really happy together but affection doesn’t happen often (days without touch/kissing). Right now I can’t actually remember the last time he kissed me

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2bazookas · 30/10/2021 14:49

DH kisses me at least a dozen times a day ( never ever misses before parting/ after arriving). It can be a bit annoying to be kissed by someone I recently snapped at , or when I'm right in the middle of making pastry or in the bath FGS but I wouldn't dream of refusing the kiss. He also laughs at me a lot.

2bazookas · 30/10/2021 14:54

@Gwenhwyfar

"Well one root canal, 2 crowns and two implants later I can honestly say I didn’t feel a thing and had no discomfort afterwards."

Lucky you. Don't for one minute think it's the same for everyone. Sometimes the local anaesthetic doesn't go to the right place, sometimes it doesn't work at all if the area is infected. I can always feel some pain through the local. Last time I had to have 6 infections before I said 'stop' and they finally agreed to let me have a GA. Obviously, while under the GA it didn't hurt, but I had two weeks of pain afterwards. This was an impacted wisdom tooth, but I've had similar pain for other extractions.
The extractions I had via a local were brutal, the dentist pushing down on my shoulder and yanking as hard as he could. This was a good dentist ten years ago.

I'm obviously not the only one who's had dental pain like this either. Teeth are not evolution's strong point.

Are you in UK? I didn't think any UK dentists would give GA any more.

WheelieBinPrincess · 30/10/2021 14:54

Used to be all the time, snogging as well.

However, I had a baby six weeks ago and since then he pisses me off so much at times I can barely be civil let alone have his face looming at mine for a kiss. There have been times when I think if I had to have his wet lips on mine for a snog I’d bite the bloody things off.

I hope this isn’t permanent it that’s where I’m at right now. I think it’s the sleep deprivation (of which he’s not really suffering from )

Gwenhwyfar · 30/10/2021 14:55

"I couldn't be doing with the constant kissing being described here: it'd do my head in!"

Yep, it's made me feel happier to be single. Every time people leave a room...

Gwenhwyfar · 30/10/2021 15:01

"Are you in UK? I didn't think any UK dentists would give GA any more."

Yes, this was at a university hospital in the UK. They didn't want to, but as I said, it wasn't possible with a local without it being torture. On the other hand, when I was talking to the surgeon he said 'Oh so it was attempted with a local' implying that it could have been possible to be referred directly for a GA. Impacted wisdom teeth are complicated though. They have to cut into your gum.

They made a difficult requirement that I had to have someone there with me and that person was supposed to stay with me for 24 hours. I almost had to just leave the tooth in because I didn't have anyone I would want to be there. In the end an unemployed friend came and I lied about him being there for 24 hours afterwards as I couldn't bear that with anyone. I had to promise we'd take a taxi home as I wasn't allowed to go home on the bus.
Stricter conditions than other bigger operations I've heard of. I've heard of other people being able to go for their operation alone as long as someone comes to pick them up.

Horst · 30/10/2021 15:12

A quick peck or passing kiss many times a day. An actual snog type kiss always leads to sex so not as often as can’t keep running for to hide away from the children for a fast one

SleepingStandingUp · 30/10/2021 15:44

@DontscratchthePRADA

Every chance we get and we never EVER leave a room without saying I love you and having a kiss. Been together 10 years and married for 8. It would seem weird not to.

Leave the house, sweet. Declaring mutual love before you go pee.... That's something else

SleepingStandingUp · 30/10/2021 16:01

I think it’s the sleep deprivation (of which he’s not really suffering from angry ) yeah that'll do it @WheelieBinPrincess. 6-10 weeks was the worse. Consider it your hormones making sure you don't get pregnant too quickly again

SleepingStandingUp · 30/10/2021 16:04

@DontscratchthePRADA

Every chance we get and we never EVER leave a room without saying I love you and having a kiss. Been together 10 years and married for 8. It would seem weird not to.

Also you must be far less scatty than me. I can leave a room 3 times in as many minutes. Go upstairs, come down with one thing, remember what I ACTUALLY wanted, go upstairs, come down with it, realise I need the loo... It'd feel contrived to say I love you and expect a reply three times in succession.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 30/10/2021 16:14

kiss good morning, kiss goodbye, kiss hello, kiss goodnight. that's the absolute minimum.
then whenever. hugs too, some hand holding and lots of attempted boob holding 🤣

full on snogging would also be a daily thing usually, but not so much in the last 2 years as I've been ill so much and I just can't breathe to my nose! and I don't want to cough in his mouth.

been together for 24 years, married for 21.
7 kids... 'nuff said

MrsLargeEmbodied · 30/10/2021 16:32

every night before bed, sometimes before going to work

Pky45 · 30/10/2021 16:34

Probably never,but we almost never had sex either

Pky45 · 30/10/2021 16:38

@DontscratchthePRADA

Every chance we get and we never EVER leave a room without saying I love you and having a kiss. Been together 10 years and married for 8. It would seem weird not to.

Really?

BigFatLiar · 30/10/2021 16:43

@MrsTxx

Sex is initiated by him, at very random times. I understand he has a high stress job and is doing open uni part time also. Would just love to feel loved. I do try kiss him, a passing kiss on the cheek as I walk by things like that. I put effort into my appearance if that matters? And we get along really well most of the time apart from daft bickers

It's a case of whatever works for you is fine, there's no one size fits all.

Appearance shouldn't matter that much. As for sex why don't you initiate it? General affection shouldn't be a matter of time. It only takes a moment to give a kiss and say I love you. Like many posters we're older and still hold hands when out, still kiss, still cuddle. I suspect OH actually prefers a cuddle to full sex. Simple acts of affection are just built into every day life.

GoodnightGrandma · 30/10/2021 16:46

@MrsTxx

What happens if you initiate sex ?

SpiceRat · 30/10/2021 17:02

I’d love a quick peck out of the blue. We do have sex around once a week? But not much kissing involved. I’d just like a snuggle on the sofa and a hug/kiss before work etc

Do you ever give him a quick kiss? Or ask for a snuggle on the sofa? I know you shouldn’t have to but sometimes these things snowball and the more physically intimate you are the more he will become. If you’re not happy you need to communicate with him, that’s the most important thing.

WheelieBinPrincess · 30/10/2021 17:30

@SleepingStandingUp yes! Totally must be a hormonal thing. At the moment there’s no chance of getting pregnant EVER AGAIN

Sillawithans · 30/10/2021 17:30

Packs, all the time. Random, could be just asking him something and he might kiss me when the conversation is over and he walks off.
Every single time he comes in or out off the house.
If he kisses me 3 times, he will kiss me a 4th as I have a thing about the number 3.
Snog, never. I couldn't think of anything worse than a snog. Maybe during sex but we don't have sex.

SingingSands · 30/10/2021 17:35

Never. Makes me shudder. I don't like kissing.

Chikapu · 30/10/2021 18:23

We kiss a lot, full-blown snogging and lots of cheek or forehead kisses in between.

Notonthenewrug · 30/10/2021 19:06

We kiss several times throughout the day. Usually when he walks past me he will give me a kiss or just put his arm on me. In the evening once the children at in bed we will watch a show together, we always cuddle up on the sofa or at least hold hands or have our legs touching. Always kiss during sex.

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