I work for DHs family business. They’re really strict about treating it like a “proper business”, I get paid properly, but they take it very seriously, like I have set working hours etc just like a normal job which is absolutely fine by me.
I’m never allowed holiday days though. DH will NEVER take any, and gets offended if I even ask for one. DH begrudgingly gives me a half day on my birthday. We have bank holidays off, and they shut for two weeks over Christmas.
I feel like I miss out on things sometimes because of not being allowed days off. A lot of my family and my best friend work in schools and when I used to work other places, I would use holiday days to have days off in their school holidays and we would go out for the day. My other sister works on Saturdays and is only allowed three Saturdays off per year, but has a day off in the week and I used to use holiday days to spend time with her too. Not all of my holiday allowance, but maybe 4-5 days per year? I wouldn’t expect my sister to book a Saturday off to spend time with me though as she gets so few (although she did once to go to a shared interest event we went to).
Anyway, I decided to ask DH for a day off as my mum and both sisters were going out for the day in this half term and I really wanted to go with them.
He said “yes, but don’t make a habit of asking”. He was really annoyed.
He then launched into a rant about how they wouldn’t book a day off for me, he doesn’t even know why I’d want to book a day off for that, how they don’t even like me, I felt like he was implying I was desperate/embarrassing myself?
I’m so upset about it. I didn’t really say anything just sat and listened. He stopped ranting and was quiet for a bit and has been normal since. But I just can’t forget about it. I’m supposed to be going tomorrow and I feel like I should cancel going, and like I shouldn’t want to go. One of my biggest insecurities is that no one likes me, that everyone is just pretending to. I have very few friends anyway. I feel like he’s wrong but also like he’s probably right. I’m also scared to remind him about it, I think he might have forgotten.
I know this isn’t AIBU, but do you think I am or is he?