ex is having a breakdown... what do i do????

[Shinyhappymummy]

After boasting on here about how happy i am i admit to the worst mistake ever.... trying to be friends with an ex. he started playing his old games and it has become quite clear it won't work being civilised.... i am soft as this is a bad time of year for him (his dad died 3 years ago) We split up because or verbal, major emotional and mental abuse and bullying. He bullied me and my dd(5) It was awful. WHy i thought it was ok to be friends i don't know. Anyway now i have cut contact he has turned to counselling, medication etc in a desperate bid to show me he is changing and so on.... However he has not changed and has gone down this route a few times before. he claims he is screwed up and that this makes it ok to treat me like shit. he claims it was his dads death that screwed him up but he was an arse before this and his 7 year marriage ended for much same reasons as our relationship did (they didnt have any kids) However now i have said that nothing has changed and i want him to leave him alone he is breaking down (apparently) He is crying sobbing and shaking. I FEEL GUILTY AND WORRIED HE MIGHT DO SOMETHING DAFT!!! Have told a mutual friend to be there for him...... HELP ADVICE!!!!!! DO I RUN ROUND AND HELP HIM OR DO I STAND BACK?????

[MaLopez]

Do not feel guilty for telling him to leave. He is hoping that will be the case. Move on and have a great Christmas. I know it sounds easier than it is, but do not let him in next time. He is hoping that you will be the good parent and not want his knocking to wake your daughter up while he keeps making a huge racket. Ignore him next time.

[warthog]

well done!

[madamez]

If he comes round kicking and shrieking again, tell him out of an upstairs window to leave or you will call the police. If he doesn't leave, call them. He has no right of entry to your house and the police will usually come out and move on a troublesome XP.