Did you ever meet you siblings ‘in-laws’?

[Wildmum54]

Hello my lovelies!
Just wanting to see what the majority is if I’m honest!
My sister is meeting my boyfriends mum for the first time this weekend! Very exciting etc
My mum has already met her but plans never aligned for my sister to join us (she has a demanding job) and then the pandemic hit so it’s been 3 years into my relationship and one DC later !

I feel like your parents meeting your partners parents is a bigger ‘thing’ but how important for you it it that your siblings meet your ‘in-laws’?
Just interested in the answers!

Erm, no its weird to manufacture it.

I've met my BIL's dad at Xmas when we all went up there. My brother hasn't met my in laws except at our wedding. Seems normal.

I'm an only so can't speak from personal perspective but my Mum's side of the family are all very friendly with each other - I remember loads of parties growing up where my cousins cousins and my Auntie's in-law's were all there, and now we're older my cousins other grandparents send me cards at christmas etc. My Uncle's wife's family are all pretty close to us as well - they all travelled from half way across the country for my grandparents' 60th anniversary.
They're a big Irish catholic family though and all mostly live v close so I think there's a big cultural element to that.

Met them at the wedding.

Met sis2's inlaws at her house a couple of times - eg baby's birthday.

We do live quite some way from each other, though (five different counties, one in Wales, between the six of us).

Na, too far apart here. They would only meet for something like our wedding or our child's birthday, not before.

I have. My sister's ILs lived near us when I was a kid and I used to go round to their house with her quite a lot. Since I moved away i have only seen them a few times - weddings, christenings and the like.
I've also met my brother's ILs a fair number of times. Again, when I was younger I used to stay with my brother and his wife quite a bit and as her parents lived locally I naturally came into contact with them.
On the other hand, my siblings have only met my ILs at DH and I's wedding and our children's christenings, and I am very happy for it to stay that way!

Ahhh good to know it’s not usual for siblings to not meet in laws for a while!

My sister is very close to her inlaws, and as such they're often at social events so we've spent a fair bit of time together over the years. They're great fun.

Also actually - my Mum has met all my fiancé's siblings a couple of times and gets them little christmas presents, and presents for my SIL's new baby etc.

I think being close is lovely actually - my fiancé and I really subscribe to the idea that when you're partners your families are joining in a lot of ways. After all - if you get married you'll all be on the same family tree! I hope your sister and partner's Mum get on really well, OP :)

We usually have 3 or 4 family events a year and our parents and siblings, and nieces/nephews come over so they all meet a few times a year. Everyone gets on and enjoys these sporadic events.

I have met my siblings in-laws only a handful of times but they live abroad so not unexpected.

I can’t see why I’d ever need to meet mine socially, they’re nothing to do with me. And I barely see my own siblings because we all live far apart, let alone traipsing hundreds of miles around the UK to see their partner’s parents and siblings. Though maybe it’s different if you’ve all grown up and still live in the same community - which I’m aware some extended families do, I’ve lived in one of those towns - and therefore you’d naturally possibly hang out in the same pubs sometimes.

@bridepanic thank you!
I think they will as my mum snd her get on really well and it’ll be the first time all three of us being together with my 6 month old so it’ll be wonderful ❤️

Thank you for all the replies everyone!
I knew it probably was going to differ vastly from family to family but just wanted to see people answers.
My DP is an only child so no siblings from his side to meet my mum 😂

My brother and parents met my in-laws for the first and only time at my wedding. I didn't consider it important for them to have anything to do with each other, or consider my (then) husband's family to be my family.

My DH has met my SIL parents at my brothers wedding but not my sisters in laws. It's definitely weird to manufacture a meeting!

“how important for you it it that your siblings meet your ‘in-laws’?”
I think this is what weddings are for. It does make social chit-chat easier when both sides have met the wider family.

@Mommabear20
The meeting isn’t ‘manufactured’
The plans with my mother and sister were already made. My boyfriend’s mum said she’d love to see my mum again as it’s been so long and I mentioned I was seeing her and my sister this weekend so why doesn’t she join us?!

It’s not a meeting specifically for my sister to meet my boyfriends mum 😂 that’s a bit much don’t you think?

I'm an only child but I have met DH's brother's wife's parents and her siblings / other relations etc at family weddings and significant birthday parties.

I think I first met them at my siblings weddings. We’ve met each other quite a few times since then, usually family events as we’ve all got young children.

@ThisIsTheEndMyFriend
Very true! Well we are engaged so a wedding isn’t too far away!

Side note - I’m dyslexic and struggle with spelling (feiance (?!) so writing boyfriend is easier 😂

Never made a special effort to do so, no, but have met them at parties and events like weddings etc.

Not deliberately no, although they were at the weddings... That's the first time for most (both DH and I have several siblings). One married someone local who's parents we vaguely knew (on a saying hello basis).

Completely unnecessary thing to manufacture! If you live hours away from your childhood/ parents home and your partner does ftom his or hers, its normal to go and meet their parents with them yourself, and vice versa, but a huge and redundant performance to try and get extended family to meet, especially as overnight accommodation will often be required!

Congratulations @Wildmum54
I’m sure you and your intended, and both families will be very happy.

Both of my brothers' wives are close to their sisters, and I have spent time with their sisters several times at family gatherings. I also got to know the mother of one of my sisters-in-law.

@UntilYourNextHairBrainedScheme
Totally get that! No need for a fanfare.

Luckily this is a ‘we’re meeting up do you want to tag along’ sort of deal not a specific meeting for my sister to meet my boyfriends mum- as I previously mentioned 😂

God no. I barely have time for my siblings let alone their partners families. I’ve been with my partner 8 years without any of them meeting her family. I’ve met some of her siblings in-laws at weddings and kids parties but that all happened organically and I certainly didn’t worry it wasn’t happening quick enough. It’s a non event really.

Yes I have met all my sisters and brothers in-laws and my mother knew her sister's in-laws, she was quite good friends with some of them.