Did you ever meet you siblings ‘in-laws’?

[Wildmum54]

Hello my lovelies!
Just wanting to see what the majority is if I’m honest!
My sister is meeting my boyfriends mum for the first time this weekend! Very exciting etc
My mum has already met her but plans never aligned for my sister to join us (she has a demanding job) and then the pandemic hit so it’s been 3 years into my relationship and one DC later !

I feel like your parents meeting your partners parents is a bigger ‘thing’ but how important for you it it that your siblings meet your ‘in-laws’?
Just interested in the answers!

At Childrens parties, family gatherings etc yes. But i personally think your way of being overly excited about our sister and MIL meeting is a little strange.

My Sister and Inlaws are obviously both invited to DC birthdays etc. I would never arrange a lunch for us 3 for example. very odd

@neededafart
So bring excited about my daughter having all the women in her life together for the first time is weird?

And HOW MANY TIMES!
This is NOT a meeting arranged SPECIFICALLY for my sister to meet my in-laws. My boyfriends mum is tagging along to ALREADY MADE plans.

Drives me mad when people comment but don’t even bother to read through my posts?? And then feel it’s okay to call me strange and odd??

Or siblings in-laws all came to our wedding.

We do loads of family stuff on both side and see them all often, and more importantly - we like them!

@Marmite27
That’s lovely to hear!
I think we’re going to have a grand old time. Nice to know I’m not ‘odd’ about looking forward to nice plans 🙄😂

It's completely normal to me, and inevitable that they'd meet at various family get together, assuming family get togethers are had! In ours I also know most of my cousins' in laws too. I wouldn't give it a second thought tbh.

@MaggieFS
Just what I thought!
I mean I have a daughter so we’ve got Christmas coming up, 1st birthday and I’m getting married so it’s not like they were never going to meet!
This was just an extend invitation to my MIL on pre-made plans.

This thread was literally just to see people opinions in general but it seems like I’ve suddenly become a target for ‘your weird to be doing this snd weird to be looking forward to it’ 😂

yes.
We quite often see them at Christmas etc. Not massively, just sometimes.
But as we have got older, my SIL's mum has come to Christmas several times at my brothers.
And my other SIL's sister and her dad are often around, as her dad was older and needing care.

Our family is pretty organic and happy to include others so this has all been very easy.

I'm an only too but I've met my BIL's parents a few times over the years and his siblings once or twice. So DH's sister's husband's family if that makes sense. Things like nephews' birthdays and special birthdays for grown ups or just them popping round while we're at SIL's house. It's not been a 'thing' to meet them though.

I can imagine something like a hen night if you have a brother you might have your SILs from both sides there and both mums?!

@MrsDeaconClaybourne
I’d say that’s what it’ll be like for us! Not that we’ve had much of a chance to do
Anything with Covid)

But you’re right it’s definitely not a ‘thing’.
My MIL just so happens to be tagging along to plans I already made with my mum and sister so definitely not a ‘thing’ but it seems me saying I’m excited about my plans - and the fact that all the Roman in my daughters life will be with her at once - has hit a nerve with some people 🤷🏼‍♀️

@MrsDeaconClaybourne * all the woman win my daughters life

Bloomin’ predictive keyboard! 😂

I never understand these threads.

You asked for peoples opinions. I've given you mine. It's not a debate on who's right or wrong.

Yes I do think it's a bit odd that you seem overly excited about all you DD female relatives to be in the same room. But that's not to say you are doing anything Incorrectly.

Enjoy your day out.

I think it's nice though Wild I'm a more the merrier when it comes to who I include as family! My SILs (DH's sisters) know my mum quite well with me being an only child she's nearly always with us for Christmas etc.

Like @birdepanic@ I come from a large extended Irish Catholic family, perhaps it is a cultural thing but I love meeting anyone connected to either mine or my husband's family. Same applies to my DCs in laws and my cousins etc. They may not share my genes but they overlap with others that do, they are all kindred and therefore I am very happy to meet, socialise etc. Some have become good friends over the years and we see them reguarly other less so but I would always extend an invitation to them. As frequently pointed out on MN, no is a perfectly valid answer and one which I will not take offence at.

@neededafart
Yes, I asked for peoples opinions - but that wasn’t an open invitation for people to call me off or weird?
Why not a simple- not something I’d do or be bothered about as other posters have said?
It was the added comments that weren’t needed and just mean.

Thank you.
Enjoy your evening

@frami
Makes sense to me! I have a lot of extended family also so the notion has never been strange to me. Maybe it’s part snd parcel of being in a big family?

And definitely agree! If my MIL had said no I’d not taken offence one bit!
The conversation was literally:
MIL - I haven’t seen your mum in ages, we should meet up soon!
Me- well I’m seeing her and my sister with DD this weekend you’re welcome to join.
MIL - oh yes lovely! Girls day! And I’ll get to meet your sister!

Very relaxed with hardly any forward planning 😂