I have posted many many times before under various names. DH is a functioning alcoholic, though will not admit this himself. I usually post after a binge or crisis, read the (LTB) advice, and then carry on as before. Life can be so good with him. But it hardly ever is anymore. I wont go into how he has treated me in the past. No crisis or major event has happened, just an epiphany that me and the DCs deserve more in life. I am ready to separate.
However, we are in major debt, he has no job, and I only work part time. We are mortgaged and making the repayments just. DC1 is very anxious, and has very little resilience. Though I know splitting up will be good for DCs in the long run, I know this will be a major struggle for them for a while. Also DH will not take it well, he has been suicidal in the past and has threatened to do something if I ever end things (more of a there wouldn't be any point to life than an overt "if you leave I will kill myself"). Also he is very well thought of in our small town/community and I know I will look like an evil witch for breaking up.
Can I please ask for advice on practicalities, financially and for DC emotionally.