Is your dh there for breakfast or dinner? or both

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Very very self pitying post.....

but are they there for breakfast or dinner? or both?

do they sometimes take the kids to school/nursery or pick them up?

Do they bath the kids? read to them and put them to bed?

I do all this on my own ALL day every day and it's really getting me down. I have started to think I would be better off on my own. last night me and dh had a row because I wouldnt cook him his dinner even though I hadnt had mine. I went to bed without eating. But suprise suprise he made his own tea bfore coming to bed, even though he wouldnt make us any. \

I am just so fed up and lonely.

I know he is tired but things never seem to change Just wanted to know if everyone else got help like this and am I unreasonable to dream about having that one day?

Neither - git! Its creating serious problems between us because he goes to work at 7.30am and gets back from work/gym/pub at 8pm so never sees dd at all Mon-Fri. I feel like a single mum but its worse than that because when he does get in its a)this dinner is crap and b)you look crap why do you never make any effort anymore and c) i'm going on the internet for a while (actually 3 hours). It would be better if I were a single mum because then at least when she goes to bed at 7.30pm I would have the night to myself and no moaning git coming in looking for food!

He is for both and he baths DS. We spend one hour together in the morning, then they come back at 6:00, we have dinner together and spend an hour afterwards playing with DS or reading stories. Then at 7:30 he has his bath and as soon as he falls sleep, DH and I have a coffee, go back to our computers and keep working until past midnight.

Not trying to be smug or anything, but sometimes things can be negociated to achieve a favourable arrangement, the most important thing I guess it's not to let men believe that children and kitchens are women's territory. Many hugs (((( )))))

Ch

Yep I agree, it just hasn't worked out that way. I used to be a raving feminist but when dd came along all of a sudden I couldn't do what I wanted and if dh isn't home I can't just do my own thing. I'm seriously thinking about going it alone - the strange thing is every time I threaten to leave or do leave he becomes perfect daddy for a little while but it always reverts back to the norm very quickly.

We had something like that at the beginning Dawnie, and organised rotas of things to do. Other thing I do from time to time is let him have a mens day out with DS. Lately as I have to work extra time in my dissertation I have asked him to take care of DS all saturday long. By 4:00 he is totally exhausted but has helped him to understand how hard a job is taking care of a toddler for several hours in a row. Actually, we were talking about cancelling the few days DS has at the nursery once I finished and he said... "no I guess you also need some space" I couldn't believe it but he was so right...

Yep, we'll see. After yet another blazing row on Tuesday he is, tomorrow, taking dd to Monkeys Playgroup from 9:30-11:30 and then at 2pm he is taking her to his mums for a couple of hours so thats a bonus. God I sound awful, I love dd completely but just need a bit of space every now and again. When we seriously row he is great for a week or so but I just wonder why do we have to fight to get him to do these things !?! MEN !!