Baby Carrots

[Sonaftersonafterson]

Morning!
Bit early for this, granted. Sorry in advance

I've recently met back up with a guy I went for a drink with before covid. He had been a bit flaky back then but I was so into him, he got away with mugging me off a bit. Such is life. I went NC with him in march this year and have thought about him every bloody day since. We didnt even have sex! Just months of chatting, pics, met for a drink / meal and had a kiss at the end, back in september 2020.

It took a while to move on, think I was in limerance. Then, 2 weeks ago, up he pops with 'hello stranger'. My resolve melted, months of healing out the window and I met up with him, more excited than a teenager on a first date.

To bed. First up, he said I'm going to be his "little slut". Maybe I could handle that if he was a demon in bed, buttttt, no. Then he threw me about..switching positions ...didnt know what was going on... looking back I think he was trying to stop himself cumming. Then ... to top it all off, baby carrot. Not a tiny penis but.... meh. Just a bit pale, not very big (could swallow whole, no gag reflex...not a chance!) and, well, disappointing.

He is now on at me for another date and I'm so torn. Shocking really as I have obsessed about this guy for a year. Not sure what to do.... is a smallish penis a deal breaker for you?? Can we be honest here.... it matters right? Or is it me being a shallow bitch!?!

And before we get the men on here freaking out, this is MUMS net. I'm asking the girls

Shallow or not big is best imo...

If I liked someone enough and they were amazing in bed otherwise (foreplay etc) I could overlook a small penis. By which I mean it would bother me but I'd make do for the right person...

"His little slut"? Gross.

Plus he's crap in bed and you don't feel satisfied by his penis size. He's also flaky, and clearly kept you on the back burner while he went off and had a relationship with someone else that didn't work out, and now he's back.

Get rid.

@Brollywasntneededafterall

Shallow or not big is best imo...

He is completely crap in bed. Why would you want to see him again?

Limerance - always unhealthy

Having sex with people who don't make you feel great during sex - always unhealthy

This isn't a relationship you should be pursuing.

Then, 2 weeks ago, up he pops with 'hello stranger'. My resolve melted

Sorry, posted to early there!
Then, 2 weeks ago, up he pops with 'hello stranger'. My resolve melted
He's quite the wordsmith! I can see why you were blown away with his romancing.

Of course it matters if he's not satisfying you in bed.

Tiny dick aside, are you happy being referred to as a 'little slut' ?

Regardless of penis size- 'his little slut'?!
< not envy

Back in the sea with this little fish, I think.

He's a porn hound, a crap shag and messes you about. Why would you???
A small penis wouldn't be such an issue if the rest of the sex was working but ewwwww to little slut and porn gymnastics. No thank you.

Life's too short for crap sex and small knobs OP. Unless he acted amazingly towards you in every sphere of life maybe- but sounds like he hasn't.

ewwwww to little slut and porn gymnastics

Yep. What is he, a teenager who's experience derives from the internet? Yuck.

You sound pretty turned off by him OP. Does the thought of giving him another go (it MAY have been first time nerves/trying too hard on his part) make you feel … queasy? Difficult to come back from that but only you can tell.

Smaller penis is not in itself worse, it’s who it’s attached to that matters IME.

A man you had only two drinks with called you his little slut in bed... he had no idea what your sexual preferences were, and didn't even feel the need to romance you or put in his best effort to get to the dirty talk.

And he's not great in bed. I know lockdown made singles lonely and horny but dear god.... this a very low bar for a man. Of course you shouldn't go out with him again. Especially since you managed to get infatuated with someone you met once!! Now that you know the sex is not what you thought it would be, chalk it up to Covid loneliness and bin him once and for all.

Love stories don't start with "hey stranger", "my little slut" and "baby carrots". There is definitely better out there for you.

Gross. Calling you a little slut and chucking you about the place? The small penis is a disappointing cherry on a grim cake.

Put him in the bin. You are worth more than settling for this maggot.

Want better for yourself.

Ew.
Fuck him off and tell him why. What a creep. 🪱

Shaming a bloke for the size of his penis is worse than him being bad in bed.

@Glitterybug

Shaming a bloke for the size of his penis is worse than him being bad in bed.

If he had the same sized penis and hadn't said he was going to make her his little slut or tried to treat her like a sex doll and had instead made her feel sexy, wanted and fulfilled, nobody would comment on the size.

Or is it me being a shallow bitch!?!

As you seem more concerned with the size of his penis than the fact he's a flake who treated you badly, is rubbish in bed, & has cringeworthy ideas of sex talk ... yeah.

Maybe leave this one, & save yourself for a flake who treats you badly, is rubbish in bed, & has cringeworthy sex talk, but is also in possession of a large penis.
Because obviously men are just sex objects to you, so character is immaterial, no?

To me his whole behaviour is much more off putting than the size of his penis as such. But to answer your question yes it does matter, not that every woman is looking for a large size I hasten to add.

@todaysdilemma

Absolutely fucking brilliant. that did make me laugh

@Glitterybug

Shaming a bloke for the size of his penis is worse than him being bad in bed.

People have reacted far more strongly to the fact he called her 'my little slur' the first time they had sex. That's why there's been a particularly strong reaction - if he was lovely and she felt really good about the sex then people wouldn't have made so many small dick remarks, which I agree are unkind. He wasn't kind to her though, his 'little slut' 🤮

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