DH has been diagnosed with ADHD within the last year and I'm struggling to accept it.
The psychiatrist said he wasn't bad enough for meds so we're basically just left to cope alone.
We've been married a long time, kids have left home.
Now we're both WFH and spending long periods together I've realised how badly he is affected.
The trouble is, what's undoubtedly ADHD behaviour is often also the same behaviour of a thoughtless prick and I'm finding it hard to come to terms with the knowledge that this won't change. He's also hard working (just sometimes not focused), clever, funny and genuinely a great dad to our adult DC.
The psychiatrist also queried mild autism but didn't pursue that any further.
I take out marriage vows seriously, we married for better for worse, for sickness and in health and this is a 'sickness' but it's so hard living with the fact I just 'disappear' because he's hyperfocused on other things.
Are there any words of wisdom/coping tips from other women married or living with a non neurotypical partner please?