Partner anger issues

[ilovebrie8]

Partner is like a Jekyll & Hyde he can change in a split second his mood...and it makes me feel anxious often. Tonight I was filling the dish washer and rinsing the plates unknown to me he wanted to wash an apple at the sink...where I was standing . He threw the apple across the room at me ...he seemingly thought I was going slow to annoy him. I’m stunned and was unaware I was in his way ...his behaviour is becoming more erratic...I asked him what the heck and he told me stay away from him or he’ll punch me...out of nowhere an erruption of anger😞

So leave and let him be angry in an empty room.

LTB. You can't live your life under threat of violence.

Please tell me you don't have children.

I'd be gone, very, very quickly. x

Please leave. You can't live like this. Has he hit you before? Do you have somewhere to go?

It won't get better. Leave. Honestly. Leave now before you get in too deep.

I would be leaving tonight. If it’s your house and you need him to leave get the police to escort him off the premises. Don’t try to make him leave by yourself x

I’m in the bedroom now he’s in the lounge...he is very strong if it hit me it would’ve really hurt 😞 ...he got v aggressive when I said what the heck and told me to back off or be punched...hence staying in bedroom til it calms down ...out if nowhere the apple came flying at me it was gobsmacked 😶

Am already in too deep ...😞and he owes me money ....I’m deeply regretting loaning it to him ...

Throwing an object at you is assault.
Threatening to hit you is abuse.

It won't get any better.
Contact women's aid

Get out now OP. You are in serious danger. Is there anywhere you can go right now? Friends, family? Can you say you are going to get some milk or to the gym and just escape?

@litterbird I’ve nowhere to go. Hence being in the bedroom to keep well away from him ...

Whose house is it, how much money does he owe, do you have children, jobs etc?
A normal person would have said “excuse me babe, can I just rinse this apple a sec” …. Or waited.

WTAF, this has to end.

Abusive bastard, LTB. Only option that ends well here.

I believe Womans Aid can help, someone will be able to give you a better answer about it but any womans refuge is better than this. There is always a way out.

Your life is more valuable than any amount of money. Can you go and stay with family even if it's just under some pretence?

Op, what's the background? How long together, and at what stage did his behaviour change His? His relationship history?

Do you have children?

Do you own your house?

I would consider writing the loan off

Call the police because you’re not safe there

He’s never thrown anything at me before ...he has a temper and sometimes talks badly to me....then he is all sorry like a split personality...he makes me anxious 😟 ...am sitting feeling shell shocked it’s almost like me breathing annoys him he picks on me a lot ...

Please leave
He’s been like this for years
You only have one life - please don’t waste it on this awful man

[quote ilovebrie8]@litterbird I’ve nowhere to go. Hence being in the bedroom to keep well away from him ...[/quote]
There must be a sofa somewhere.

This WILL escalate. Next time he will hit you or strange you.

Leave NOW.

Your physical well-being is much much more important than the money. A solicitor can get the money off him at a future date- people aren't that hard to track down or sue.

Call women's aid: www.womensaid.org.uk/about-us/contact/

Ask them for help. Get your valuables together and go. Just because he hasn't got you (yet) doesn't mean he is not abusive.

You know you need to leave. You have been posting about him since 2019, throwing things at you and hitting you. You are worth much more than this and you can do it.