Is he being unfair or have I jumped to conclusions??

[Lunafeline]

Long story short, years ago I signed the dotted line for a loan for my ex-husband. Had to make myself bankrupt when we split and haven’t heard from him in 10 years. He recently contacted me to have a divorce so I gave him address for paperwork to be sent and signed.

I’ve been with my partner for 2 years and we live together. He wasn’t happy about me giving our address (wish I’d given my dads address) but I just wanted an end to all of this.

Today my partners bank account was hacked and he sent me a text from work saying he wishes I hadn’t given ex address as I don’t know anything about him. I said it was a random hacker, my ex has no clue about my relationship status. He basically said it was due to giving ex address that’s caused him being hacked, but how?? Ex knows nothing about him so how could it have been him?

I’m so angry right now and my partner thinks I’m being unfair. I don’t know what to think ☹️

Or he’s requested his cards are cancelled as he’s scared he’s going to be hacked and nothing has actually happened to his account. Suspect that’s more likely.

If he has EVER bought anything, anywhere, then his account could be compromised. It happens literally all the time, and has nothing to do with anyone giving anyone their postal address!

Then again, my credit card had to be cancelled earlier this year because of a suspicious transaction. Maybe that was also because you gave your ex your address... 😁

I think other posters are missing the fact it happened today.

If you're really cautious and do all the right things, it's horrific finding out you've been hacked. You feel vulnerable and powerless - I'm not saying he's right, but he's lashing out because he's scared.

I wouldn't jump to LTB yet. Give him at least the weekend to calm down and reflect on what has happened - if he doesn't admit he was in the wrong for blaming you then, then you have a problem.

But let the bloke have a little wobble. I didn't take it out on a partner (as I didn't have one at the time!) but when I got hacked, I properly went to pieces. I'd give a little leeway - temporarily though, mind.

I interpret it differently to most. I think OP's partner is annoyed his account was hacked as he is very particular about giving out personal information. He's not blaming it on OP's ex. Just saying this is the kind of thing that could happen if you're careless with personal details. So he's very upset and annoyed and using that to justify why she shouldn't have given out the address, not blaming the hacking on it - which is actually what he has said to her.

@Onelifeonly

I interpret it differently to most. I think OP's partner is annoyed his account was hacked as he is very particular about giving out personal information. He's not blaming it on OP's ex. Just saying this is the kind of thing that could happen if you're careless with personal details. So he's very upset and annoyed and using that to justify why she shouldn't have given out the address, not blaming the hacking on it - which is actually what he has said to her.

Nah, bollocks.

“They’ve cancelled my card and it messes with my orders. I know you don’t agree but I wish you hadn’t given XXXX our address. I’m sorry but you don’t know everything about him xxx”

It’s all about her ex, and he clearly links it to the card issue.

Also - she wasn’t “careless with personal details”. She gave her EX HUSBAND, who she personally knows pretty well indeed, her postal address.

He’s an absolute loon.

she shouldn't have given out the address

If OP has ever voted in the UK, she will have an entry on the Electrol Register with her name and address. This information is thus in the public domain and open to anyone.

Not a really major source of hacks to current accounts.

That is however all beside the point.

He is just plain wrong to blame her with absolutely no proof. Foolish and wrong. Quite the combination.

If OP has ever voted in the UK, she will have an entry on the Electrol Register with her name and address. This information is thus in the public domain and open to anyone.

This is not entirely true. My name and address are not on the public (edited) register, as I ticked the box to opt out. My details are on the full register that is only open to those with legal rights to view the full register.