Could someone please explain why cheating exh is pissed off that I'm in a relationship?

[surethings]

This makes no sense to me.
He cheated on me, left us and the fall out two years later remains massive on the kids.
He's still with ow. She refuses to meet kids.
I'm gloriously happy with new man of a year. My kids have met him
Casually. They all get on great. eldest daughter is still angry and bitter with her dad. She is 17. She gets on famously with new man.
Please explain this to me. It
Makes no sense at all.

Don't spend a moment worrying about how he feels. It isn't relevant to your life and he doesn't deserve it.

It's probably that he expected you'd spend the rest of your days begging him to return, and his pride's been hurt.
It could be that the children will always have something against his new P but seem to like yours.

Because he’s a complete twat would be my guess 😁

because you were suppose to be pining for him. You didn't instigate the split, you were heart broken so how can you move on and not want him? you were suppose to be his back up.

this is what i would presume he is thinking - ignore him, he did you a favour :) enjoy your life

You are supposed to go into purdah & grieve evermore...

Doesn't want you, doesn't want anyone else to either, which sounds harsh but he needs to justify moving on himself by denigrating you possibly?

It's often said, The best revenge is living well.

That's because the person who wronged you, absolutely does not want you to be living well. It infuriates them. You're supposed to be broken and sad so they can feel superior. So they can have "won".

It's hard to feel superior to someone who's beaming from ear to ear.

Thanks for your thoughts.
I've tried to figure it out myself.
What happened in my opinion was that because of his uselessness and disinterest in our kids and family
Life, as a whole , he still expected physical intimacy from his worn out, pleading , resentful and angry wife who lost all
Respect for him. A lazy man child who had no issue leaving all domestic drudgery, childcare, mental load to me despite both working full time. Any excuse to avoid spending
Time with his own children. All he wanted was me to himself.
One of my last memories of him was of me arriving home from work and childcare pick up on a wet wintertime evening, hungry children and exhausted myself ,to a messy cold. kitchen and no dinner prep done and him buried deep into his phone on the sofa . That was the day I checked out for the last time .
He was a sex pest who couldn't understand why I was never in the mood. I recoiled with seething resentment so he just left and got it elsewhere .
Good riddance is right .

Because at some level, in some way - he still thinks he "owns" you.

He is allowed to have another partner, but you are not.

You were a domestic, childcare and sex appliance; and he thinks he's your owner ... just not using you, he doesnt think another man should be able to carry you off/use you.

Because he knows your gain is his loss

Who cares why he's pissed off.

It will be something else in 6 months, then something else....and on and on.

He's also probably very resentful that you didn't want to have sex with him, but are now having sex with another man .... he'd be too lacking in empathy, decency, introspection and taking responsibility for his behaviour to acknowledge why you didn't want to

He was a sex pest

I find the sex pest type usually coincides with the sees women as objects/possessions type.

You were a domestic, childcare and sex appliance; and he thinks he's your owner

That's right. He is astonished to now find you acting as an actual PERSON

I wonder too if it is because he has little money now or because his relationships with his children have all but broken down in some cases. I am better off financially now and kids with me90% of time as they don't want to spend much time with him sadly.
Yes we were very sexually active pre kids but I turned right off him because of his disdain and disrespect for me.
He probably guessed that I am once again very sexually active so it could be a jealousy thing ?
Is it because my kids get on well with new man and his partner refuses to meet our kids?

It's like a child with a toy, just because they put the toy down, doesn't mean they'll like another child picking it up to play with.

He hasn't the capacity to see you as an individual human being with needs. He was narcissistic and saw you simply as something there to fulfil his needs.

Good for you, op! Enjoy your life with your family and new partner.

@SleepingBunnies21

Because at some level, in some way - he still thinks he "owns" you.

He is allowed to have another partner, but you are not.

You were a domestic, childcare and sex appliance; and he thinks he's your owner ... just not using you, he doesnt think another man should be able to carry you off/use you.

All of this.

He still thinks of you as his 'possession'

His stupid male ego is now dented because you have a wonderful man, much much better than him and he quite simply doesn't like that.

Good for you. Don't give him another thought.

Revenge is a dish best served cold springs to mind ! The revenge being you are happy without him… he probably isn’t happy and definitely won’t understand why you would be sexually active with someone else but not him… because he is a selfish, self involved idiot who thinks women are there to serve. Well done for moving on op

He doesn’t want you, but he doesn’t want anyone else to have you either - or perhaps he’s just realised what he’s lost/couldn’t keep hold of!

I second the 'he still thinks he owns you' comments. His ego cant cope with you moving on, being happy and another man making you happy. He wanted you sad and lonely so that he could feel like he could come back anytime he wanted. Now he knows you will be treated better and have boundaries and he knows how loving and wonderful you are and that you will not be thinking of him. You will be putting your energy into a new relationship and your kids will be happier seeing you so happy. He's likely comparing himself to your new man and not feeling too good.

Taste of his own medicine !

Oh god yeah you're supposed to be pining and waiting for him to come back and the kids are supposed to adore him. None of you are ever supposed to entertain the idea of another man!

Good on you for finding someone lovely!

He probably guessed that I am once again very sexually active so it could be a jealousy thing ?

Probably. He thinks, 'she didn't want me, how come he's getting it from her ?'

It dents his ego that, in his view, you want your new man over him.

He's pretty much sulking and thinking, 'so you don't want sex with me but you do want sex with him.' What's that about ?

He probably does have some residual sense of ownership over you/your sexual desire. That's what his problem is.

Your kids get along with him as well.

He just can't fathom what's going on. What it's all about. I mean if he'd have got that level of compliance from you, he wouldn't have left. You would all be one happy family which suited his convenience.
You've gone and confused him now. Tea hee !

It's going his brain in that you're having sex with some one else but not him. Y'know, cause no means no.

How has he expressed he's pissed off? The gall of it. I hope you laughed at him op

He has told his family that he is unhappy and when I suggested a change over of
Our children at a specific place and explained that my fella
Would be there he said .......' I'm not ready to meet him yet' .....

Because you've taken away his back up plan - I.e you!
Congratulations on your new relationship and like others have said, don't worry about what your ex thinks!

He has told his family that he is unhappy and when I suggested a change over of
Our children at a specific place and explained that my fella
Would be there he said .......' I'm not ready to meet him yet' .....confusedhmm

It really is all about him, isn't it ? You and the kids are better of without him. He's not happy and it looks like his back up plan i.e. you other plans !