Help! staying over with new man at the weekend and not confident about my body

[Zazu44]

Hi, please help, I'm staying over with a new guy at the weekend and I'm really body conscious and about 2 st overweight.

My last relationship was very toxic, and he hated it when I put weight on over menopause/ hysterectomy and was very cruel about it causing massive depression and worse. I had zero self esteem.
I've worked hard to get 'me' back again but my insecurities are raising their head again and I'm terrified about being naked with him even though there is massive attraction between us.
Do I tell him about the past and how I feel and what's happened or just go with it and be brave.
Any advice?

He has text now 🥰. I think I always expect it to be negative .. guess it's from years of feeling not good enough and being told so.
Will learn to chill and see how it goes.
Thanks everyone

Aww fab he must be keen. Make the most of the early day feelz!

Ah I'm so pleased for you

What men really love is when a woman is very sexy and highly responsive and flattering his every move and his body.

Do all that and he won't care if you are TEN stone overweight let alone 2.

Got on the scales this morning and have lost a few lbs! Must have been all that walking 😊😉

So glad you've got so much to be happy and positive about. Oh yeah, all that walking, yeah, um that's right.

The karma sutra style acrobatics and slow motion yoga might have helped with the calorie burn too !!

Maskless that's very encouraging to hear. Dare I ask if you're a man?!

@ToffeeNotCoffee what a wonderful way to lose weight though! 😊

Try to keep a lid on your insecurities as that’s not attractive.
You enjoying sex and enjoying spending time with him is.
If you don’t hear from him for a while, don’t let your insecurities mean you start over-texting him! Your past is your past, just focus on your confidence and all will be fine

@Zazu44

Yes it is !

So pleased for you. I know exactly how you felt because that was me 2 years ago - body image is a hard thing to get over.

very quiet since I left. Maybe it wasn't so good for him

Oh lovely @Zazu44 You really don't deserve to feel like this.

You have a can lovely weekend snd Dp did he. Enjoy.

Just had a lovely phone chat and he's coming to mine next weekend. 🥰

Falling in love again, never wanted to, what am to do ? I can't help it.

Also, a reprieve of the last time you met. Wah hey !

That's fantastic news. You'll be counting the days until you meet again.