So angry with ex husband

[Shehasadiamondinthesky]

I've just got to vent really, anonymously, I've since blocked the arse from every aspect of social media.
I divorced my ex 45 years ago basically because he was horrible, could be aggressive, lazy, in and out of work when it suited him.
Didn't stay in touch as he buggered off abroad to avoid paying CMS and my DS didn't see him again until he was 18.
Luckily my DS is chilled and keeps him at arms length but says he manages his time with his father because he is a handful, i.e no social skills and no off switch.
My ex inherited a house shortly from his mother worth half a million and instead of taking care of it and either living in it or renting it out let it fall to bits then had to sell it for half of what it was worth.
The rest of the money he just pissed up the wall and now lives in a rented dump.
No didn't consider his son at all in all of this or his sons inheritance, he doesn't have any other children.
I've worked hard all my life to provide a nice home for DS and now am in a position to help buy him a house of his own - he is thrilled, he is a really sensible man good with money, has no debts, has a good job.
Ex pops up on facebook messenger the other day to say we need to talk about DS, we need to start "co-parenting" properly (DS is 40 years old) he's wasting his life (doesn't want ex's choice of career for him which is pretty much out of the boy's own manual) and thinks he isn't "grateful" enough to his father for his advice over the years!!!! Says I shouldn't buy him a house or he'll just be a mummys's boy forever, actually he's been living independently with my lovely DiL for 20 years. I don't interfere in his life at all.
I really lost my shit and still feel a bit psychotic if I'm honest.
I wondered if there are any really angry women out there who would like to help me build a new patio.

Or who have any ex stories that will cheer me up.

Sounds like you’ve raised a good son, and done an amazing job…ex husband has a bloody cheek trying to get involved when you’ve done all the hard work xx

Block him -contact the police and request he never ever contacts you again -EVER. Have him charged if he contacts you again. Don't engage.

Just see him for the pathetic man he is. I'm sure your son sees the situation clearly. After all this time he just isn't worth your thoughts.

Why are you letting it bother you? Ex is an idiot. Just tell him to piss off.

Sorry OP but your ex’s request to co-parent after this long made me smile. What a bellend. Just block him. Do what you are planning and don’t give him another thought x

There are not many people who can top my crazy xh stories but i reckon you have. Block your xh and congratulations on having a lovely son. Honestly the brass neck of bastard men never fails to irritate me.

Reply back,
Of course his a mummies boy, his father fucked off for years and abandoned him and made it that way, you should have done a better job but you just failed miserably as a father, but too late now. Me and the mummies boy don’t need you so fuck off and don’t contact me again.

I’m outraged for you…..I’ll grab the shovel!!

@Rainbowheart1

Reply back, Of course his a mummies boy, his father fucked off for years and abandoned him and made it that way, you should have done a better job but you just failed miserably as a father, but too late now. Me and the mummies boy don’t need you so fuck off and don’t contact me again.

I’m outraged for you…..I’ll grab the shovel!!

Actually, do this. If your son was a kid that would be inappropriate but seeings as he is 40 id absolutely do this.

Coparent a 40 year old.

Is he on glue

I'll help with the patio, there's no space under mine

Just tell your ex that the boat sailed 35 years ago, he and his views are irrelevant and to mind his own business.

Then treat yourself to a long walk in the autumn sunshine and then a lovely glass of wine in your clean, sane, man-free house. Leave him to stew in his filthy rented dump.

What a pathetic excuse your ex is.

You need to laugh hysterically. I would actually post on FB and say guess what ExH wants to co-parent my wonderful son now he's 40 and married and financially solvent 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

To cheer you up, my ex rang me in July and said he didn't think he'd be able to get to DS's sports day because he had to have an operation on his hip.

I pointed out that Ex has never once attended either of ds's schools in 10 years of formal education, not shown up for a sports day, parents evening or carol concert ever. Never done a school run. That even if he did, he wouldn't be allowed in because no-one even knows who he is.

I ignored the 'pity me, I have a poorly hip' crap and hung up. Self-obsessed prat !

I'll help with the patio if it's a roomy one! By the way, made me giggle. Under the comment about him sniffing glue, a glue gun advert appeared 😳.

There's room under my patio. And I have a leg of lamb in the freezer that we could brain the stupid, egotistical knob with. . .

Just text back" you had me for a minute". Ha ha.

I’ve got a shovel somewhere…. What a bugger! Suddenly realised he’s in his own then?
Wanting a bit of attention is he?
Bury him face down, so if he tries to dig out, he just digs himself deeper!

Am I missing something? You divorced him 45 year ago but your son is 40?

Yeah, dont ruin a decent patio on him. Ffs.

I’m really sorry if this is inappropriate, but I laughed…. Out loud when I read
“Ex pops up on facebook messenger the other day to say we need to talk about DS, we need to start "co-parenting" properly (DS is 40 years old)”
Not at you, at him. What an absolute ridiculous thing to say 🤣
Your son sounds absolutely fantastic. He is 40. His dad doesn’t need any contact with you at all. I’m still laughing.

Just text back ‘ Who is this?’

@Mumsnut 🤣

This

Just text back ‘ Who is this?’

@Iwantamarshmallowman

Co-parenting a 40 year old?
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