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Tales of meeting somebody when you never thought you would

37 replies

elizadoalittle · 09/10/2021 18:31

Having a pity party over here.... feels like like I'm destined to be Miss Haversham... please share you perky stories of when you met somebody when you thought it was never going to happen?!

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elizadoalittle · 09/10/2021 19:35

Pity party for one then Confused

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Yummypumpkin · 09/10/2021 19:54

I just think most people or a lot are watching strictly!

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elizadoalittle · 09/10/2021 20:01

Haha. Fair one.

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Iwouldlikesomecake · 09/10/2021 20:08

5 years ago I was a single freelancer and had resigned myself at 35 that that was that and I wouldn’t be finding anyone so I should just live my own life on my terms.

Now I’ve been married 2 years, and am in a place I never thought I’d be in!! I maintain the reason it happened was because I started being really selfish and making my decisions based on me and not on ‘oh but this or that man might be there’.

Vulvasaur · 09/10/2021 20:14

I was mostly single and dating for the best part of 8 years from my late 20s onwards. A few short relationships that didn't work out. I did tons of online dating and decided finally after my 35th birthday that it was time to start pursuing having a baby alone. The week before my 36th birthday I went on a date with a nice guy and now 2 years later we have bought a place together and expecting a baby. I was so sure it would never happen for me. Have faith!!!

Ohpulltheotherone · 09/10/2021 20:19

I’ve actually had a few good relationships and never really any issue finding men but found myself facing my late 30s single. Had wanted children for years but just didn’t happen. Was looking into doing it alone etc.
Decided to download a dating app, left it on my phone a few weeks before really making an effort to chat to anyone. Only really clicked with one man, gave him my number after a week, had a first date. Wasn’t sure. Had two more dates and was absolutely smitten. 5 years later, we are settled with 2 kids and planning our wedding.
It happens every day OP - you just have to know what you want and be prepared to seek it out. The right person really can drop right into your lap - but only if you give them some opportunity to!

MrsCatE · 09/10/2021 20:27

Yup. I had to introduce people to new way of working and one twat was particularly vociferous - he’s now MrCat.

SweetBabyCheeses99 · 09/10/2021 20:30

“It happens every day OP - you just have to know what you want and be prepared to seek it out. The right person really can drop right into your lap - but only if you give them some opportunity to!”

Yes I second this!

ThornesandRoses · 09/10/2021 20:36

I had a rough time growing up and a very prolonged awkward phase. Got to 30, had never kissed anyone and cried myself to sleep frequently because I was just so lonely.

I gave Bumble another go and managed to find my current partner. It's been lovely.

Keep hoping Flowers

TrampolineForMrKite · 09/10/2021 20:40

Long term relationship ended. Truly thought he was the one, my heart wasn’t just broken.... it was smashed to smithereens. I was alone snd sad and wandering the world like the Incredible Hulk. Had come to terms with whatever happiness I found being a pale imitation of what I’d previously felt. And then a chubby humanities teacher with a cheeky grin and the best sense of humour walked into my classroom and asked if he had the right room for his period three (he didn’t). 18 months later we were married, another 18 months on we had a baby girl. He’s the best thing that ever happened to me and I completely didn’t see it coming.

Signoramarella · 09/10/2021 20:46

Oh my such lovely stories. Mine is, had given up. Joined dating app during my divorce. Clicked with a guy 10 years older. 3 dates in I was hooked!

LaTomatina · 09/10/2021 20:48

I had a succession of disasters and unrequited's, starting in my teens. Nothing ever lasted much past a year and mostly not even that long. All either cringey or horrible (or both) in hindsight. In my early 30s I finally, accidentally, met The One. 11 years later we're still together, and likely to remain so.

nervousseacreature · 09/10/2021 20:50

I got dumped by text on my 32nd birthday. Had been seeing the guy almost a year, met on OLD. Couldn’t face all starting up all that again.

Met a friend of a friend at a NYE party that year - and we got married 18 months later and now have 2 children! I only wish I’d met him sooner

ShirleyBadass · 09/10/2021 20:52

Got sacked at the age of 35 so started working in a pub, he'd just been cheated on in a long term but quite toxic relationship so spent his evenings sat at the bar lonely....now been happily married for 10 years.

EarthSight · 09/10/2021 21:32

@MrsCatE

Yup. I had to introduce people to new way of working and one twat was particularly vociferous - he’s now MrCat.
@MrsCatE I think we need to hear more about that. Could you elaborate how this 'vociferous twat' became your husband lol?
MrsRobbieHart · 09/10/2021 21:39

Oh I really needed to see this thread tonight. Thanks for starting it OP.

Isseywith4witchycats · 09/10/2021 21:46

aged 56 marriage had ended due to ex cheating never thought i would meet anyone decent again 18 months later online dating going ok but no long term prospects from anyone i had met then went on POF one night saw a profile i liked the look of, did something i never usually did i messaged him, 7.5 years later still together and happy

StCharlotte · 09/10/2021 21:48

I woke up on my 35th birthday after being happily single for eight years and I mused as to whether I might have a boyfriend when I'm 36. I woke up on my 36th birthday with a brand new husband Smile

(A mutual friend set us up on New Year's eve.)

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elizadoalittle · 09/10/2021 21:49

These are all amazing!! Thank you lovely lot for sharing!

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Justmuddlingalong · 09/10/2021 21:52

Marriage ended when I was 30, dated on and off for 6 years, all fun but nobody I wanted a serious long term relationship with. Bumped into DP on a night out. Moved in together after 3 months. 15 years later we're totally happy, committed and having a great time together.

FuckingFabulous · 09/10/2021 22:00

I got out of a hideously toxic relationship where I spent years wondering why I was doomed to this life when I just felt like there was something I was meant to have. Someone I was meant to be with that would care about me and love me, not hurt me and control me. I was talking to a lot of people online after my ex and I broke up, I met a few of them here and there for coffee and cake. One evening, I met up with one guy, literally just a friendly meet up and it was like a bell sounding in my head the first time I looked at him. I know it sounds crazy but I just knew that he was the one I'd been waiting to come into my life. It was like, "ah, there you are!" And i'd always scoffed at the idea of love at first sight..... not that it was love, but it was definitely something. It's so hard to describe.

Anyway, I married him five years after that moment and it's our fifth wedding anniversary this year. I can't imagine ever being without him

Icanflyhigh · 09/10/2021 22:05

Just over 5 years ago I was a single mum of 3DCs under 10 and had been single for about 2 years after marriage ended.
Went on a random weekend, part of a group, met this chap, chatted a lot.
Added on FB, had a date a few weeks later and he never really went home again.
We got married a few weeks ago and he is my equal in every single way. He takes care of DCs as if they were his own, totally supportive of us all and truly amazing.
Hang on in there.

Morgoth · 09/10/2021 22:23

Really needed to read this thread tonight. Feeling down and it’s given me a lot of hope

mswales · 09/10/2021 22:44

Would love stories of people who finally found love in their 40s or 50s after being perenially single!

Mateypotatey · 09/10/2021 22:51

Like a pp I was single for most of my twenties, got to 30 and had completely given up. Just thought fuck it I'm going to do exactly what I want, which was to move abroad to work, and buy a house back home in the UK. On the plane out there I met the funniest guy I've ever known. He was seven years younger than me and everyone thought we were mad, but five years later we are engaged and living in the house I bought. I'm sick and he has looked after me all day. Best decision ever.

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