Tales of meeting somebody when you never thought you would

[elizadoalittle]

Having a pity party over here.... feels like like I'm destined to be Miss Haversham... please share you perky stories of when you met somebody when you thought it was never going to happen?!

Also, and this is totally outing but I will name change after, my mums story. She was married to my dad for 20 years, then a long time single. Met a lovely woman at her hobby and now they are married and sickeningly happy. The woman had also been in a relationship with a man for 20yrs prior.

Shit relationships throughout my 20s.

Shitload of therapy in my early 30s.

Now 34 and with someone (two years so far) it is so easy to be with.

We laugh constantly, are proud of each other, are a team and if we had met and hadn't fancied each other would still be best mates.

Never thought relationships could be so easy and calm. I learned drama isn't the same as love.

As I say, took a commitment to being single and not dating for over a year then acknowledging every red flag when I started dating again, not seeing people more than once if I got even a hint of stress or anxiety.

I would be fine if I was single, I would make plans to be a lone parent through adoption or a sperm donor. I think that knowledge and security in myself was key. I'm with someone who I want, not someone I think I 'need'.

@mswales

Would love stories of people who finally found love in their 40s or 50s after being perenially single!

I was 39 and had never been in a very serious relationship before I met a wonderful man online (not even a dating site). We've been married for 17 years now!

I’d been single for 8 years after several very bad experiences and, at 43, had decided it was going to be a permanent thing. I had literally no interest and didn’t care if I never had sex again. Then, one night whilst a bit tipsy, I signed up to a dating website, got several messages, majority dickheads asking for hook ups, but one from a really nice sounding guy who grabbed my attention, and we’ve now been together a few months. He’s just lovely and has awoken a side of me that I’d forgotten existed. I’m so glad I didn’t give up completely.

Had an awful first marriage and swore I'd never marry again. A couple of relationships and a good few ons later, I met this really polite gorgeous man in a club.
We were both very very drunk and I went back to his. We're married now and expecting our first baby!

@mswales my DH’s is love in 40s after being perennially single. He was geeky and lacked confidence, had two very short relationships but they sadly both cheated on him and knocked his confidence even further. He’d accepted he just wouldn’t have a wife or children bless him. Then I came along and I knew immediately he was a keeper, such a decent, caring, committed man…I’m proud every day that I am his wife and even after all our years together he’s still in shock that he’s got me, that I actually like him, and that he is a father.

I was 37 and 5 years single. I was happy enough but really lonely for a companion in life. I just wanted someone to cuddle, a cwtch and watch telly with of an evening! I used to observe couples and wonder if I'd ever meet anyone. I eventually tried OLD and met a short, dark, mesmerising stranger. We are now married with a child!

Awww such lovely stories. I sometimes wonder about meeting someone but I much prefer being on my own. I have 3dc and maybe once they've left home I might consider it again. I'll be in my late 50s then though. I'm too set in my ways, stubborn, antisocial, and probably autistic which is why relationships and me don't go well together. I'll live vicariously through threads like these instead

Long term relationship ended. Truly thought he was the one, my heart wasn’t just broken.... it was smashed to smithereens. I was alone snd sad and wandering the world.....had come to terms with whatever happiness I found being a pale imitation of what I’d previously felt.

This was me. I had also been left destitute by exDH and had a kid in tow, it felt like he'd stolen my whole life and I knew I'd never trust a man again and was happily single. But I didnt want exDH to steal another decade so I thought that i'd at least shag my way through my 30s, having fun for ME, so I went on tinder. First 'hook up', was supposed to be a one time deal, been inseparable ever since (over 2yrs). He's helped me put my life back together.

@EarthSight - went on a Team social night out. Noticed he had a (very discreet) badge indicating his team of choice (not a euphemism) was mine too! Reminisced about past endeavours and hopes for the future whilst having a dance. I think latter what made me have butterflies; that he liked dancing and didn’t give a sh*t!! We’ve been flinging woo at each other ever since!

mswales my friend did. She had dated a little but had been single for about 13 years from age 34. She ended up marrying at 49 and I was her bridesmaid. She had wanted dc so sadly that ship had sailed but she seems very happy.

I have been to a lot of weddings. My nephews wedding was featured in a bridal magazine and his wife has supermodel looks but my mate was the most beautiful bride I have ever seen. Her Mum had died a few years before and I felt extremely privileged to help her pick a dress. They met through mutual friends via Facebook.

It's really nice to read the stories on here!

I'm 39 currently 30 weeks pregnant via IVF and a sperm donor. I couldn't/didn't want to wait any longer for a stable, loving relationship... I was married/got divorced aged 36 and dated/had a 'situanship' where I at least discovered that I'm still capable of loving/feeling excited.

I'm not looking for marriage/or even more children, but I'd like an emotional commitment/sexual exclusivity and to be attracted/attractive to someone and them to me.

@elizadoalittle

Do you have children already/or want them?

I have to say, with the baby on the way, I already feel the pressure has been taken off finding a partner - I was feeling not only lost/lonely etc I was really concerned I'd miss out on motherhood, and I'm glad I did something about it (of course there were no guarantees that it'd work, but I needed to try and attempt/have agency as this was too important to leave it in the hands of fate/meeting a partner).

It seems a number of people on here met their partners online?