How to stop thinking about OW?

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DH had affair with OW. She wasn’t just in the background, she contacted me, lied and gaslighted me. She came to our house to sleep with DH.

I hate DH and are divorcing, he wants to stay together. She has a husband and two children. She wanted my DH to leave but he didn’t. Now she is saying she wants to stay with her family. Apparently.

How do I forget her as she is preoccuping my mind.

Getting a bit obsessional and thinking constantly about the threat in this situation is natural. It's just the reptile part of your brain trying to think how to protect you. However 'going down the rabbit hole' is not a good long terms solution constant ruminating about a bad situation can make you depressed. Try to force yourself to think about something else, keep busy and try to get as much joy in your life as you can.

Even if she minimised her little socks off it’s the kind of thing her dh is going to bring up in arguments and it will damage the relationship between them, especially with you divorcing him. It’s a seed of doubt.

Some things are unforgivable. But one day when you're happier, you just won't think about her as much.