Found out my dh had an affair last year, weve tried for a year but I'm just finding it too hard and csnt get over it. Weve come to the conclusion we need to separate but how do we do that when we both love each other so much. We get on so well and he is just my favourite person, we hardly ever disagree or argue, we have so much fun and are into the same things. I know I'll never find anyone as perfect for me as he is, he is the one. But there is just too much heartbreak for it to work, I've put my guard up and cant let him in anymore, pushing him away. We have 2 children too and it just seems so sad to split up our fantastic family but I can't see any other way. How do I leave when I just dont want to. He says the same as me, that he loves me and wants to be with me but it's all just ruined and too sad and that we cant go back to what we had, so what's the point in staying and being sad together.