Boyfriend won't delete girls on social media

[lola1987]

Hi I'm new on here but desperate for some advice so please be kind!
I've been with my bf for 6 months but just noticed he had loads of women friends on his social media that he doesn't know, but are the sort of girls that are not the kind you'd feel comfortable with your boyfriend having on there. Eg. Big Boobs on display in underwear, bum out and very sexual pics on their profiles, even some with links to their 'only fans'. I confronted him and asked that he unfriended any girls that he doesn't actually know, and he admitted that he doesn't know them. However, he refuses to delete them saying he won't be dictated to and won't delete them as he's had them on there for years. I had noticed that sometimes he spends hours upon hours active on Facebook till the early hours of the morning and I think this is really suspicious behaviour and said I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who won't consider my feelings. Am I being paranoid or do I have a right to be upset and have I done the right thing finishing things?

This is not the OP unless it's a name change. @Shirl2022 you might want to start your own thread as it's getting confusing.

It was a name change fail.

It's not a name change fail. She literally said she'd read the OP and is experiencing similar. The writing style is completely different.

I would also not be involved with a man that did this. I actually don't think it's 'dictating' to request him to unfollow them. It makes you uncomfortable, maybe he had forgotten, maybe he was unaware of how it made you feel etc. Everyone has the right to request a change but then you have to accept him saying 'no'. Totally right to end things after that though. The 2 of you obviously have very different ideas about what constitutes respect

Oh! Thanks - & apologies OP, & @Shirl2022

thanks for pointing that out i am experiencing similar i am new on here

thanks thats ok when i calm down and tears stop rolling there is some real good advice on here

Show him the door, no men should objectify women. Sounds like a pea brain and let him have his pathetic social media friends who offer no friendship. Just sounds sleezy and he is being disrespectful to you!

My cousin’s boyfriend had porn on his walls when she met him. He refused to take it down. She married him anyway.

He’s now a total dick to her and she is very sad.

Honestly I’d take this as the red flag that this is and dump him.

Your right i will have to be strong show him the door i guess it has taken me a while to see sense

Thank you for the advice it actually makes sense i guess he just messed with my head

Hun just end it. Red flag aleady that he’s doing it and the way he responded to you. I understand he can’t be dictated to but this is what he’s into and basically told you to piss off. Ur not that much Vg if a priority. Just end it now before you get in too deep x

Thanks your right some very good advice here need to stay strong and not listen to any more bull from him 😘