Boyfriend has just told me he has HPV virus

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Hey all,
Hope you’re well on this rainy Saturday.

Last year I left my husband after 29yrs.
We were very unhappy and he didn’t love me.
I have started dating and after a few misses I have met the most amazing man or so I thought.
He ticks every box. I’m a changed woman just so happy I’m every way.

However this morning he tells me that yesterday he went to have a small wart removed from the base of his penis. He was worried and went to get it checked.
He then tells me that he his ex wife (8 years ago) gave him genital warts and that he had had the HPV virus which he had assumed that had gone as he has had no symptoms for years.

He has never mentioned having the virus 8 yrs ago and we have had unprotected sex so I assume that I now have it.

I can’t help but feel upset. He is so bloody perfect in every way. I just feel he should have told me.
Am I overreacting?
I actually hope I am because I’m a bit loved up but I’m also very pissed off.

Will book smear test
Any advice greatly received

Iloveabourbon2 through lots of pharmacies - I have a attached a screenshot from Lloyds

@optimistic40

Iloveabourbon2 through lots of pharmacies - I have a attached a screenshot from Lloyds

Thank you.

@optimistic40

They are not done the same way as a smear - they are vaginal swabs. If it comes back positive you can ask for a smear so they can check for cell changes.

No you can’t.

NHS cervical screening is done by schedule, not on request, whether HR-HPV positive or not.

You can obviously arrange a smear privately.

By the way, no, I haven't yet done it personally. But I intend to, as I've had treatment for abnormal cells and really want to know whether I still have HPV before the next planned appointment. I hate waiting and worrying.

Sidge it's a shame if they are saying no - lots of cell changes could occur in those three years (less than two years for me from just HPV no cell changes to severe changes requiring treatment). I have private healthcare though.

It's completely reasonable to think that after 8 years the virus had cleared. It's very common and possible for the virus to go for good contrary to what people here are saying.

It is possible for the immune system to clear HPV - I had an outbreak years ago but was negative at my last smear!
It’s probable that he thought that it was gone, so didn’t feel the need to mention it to you.

Also as others have said, it’s very common & condoms don’t actually always protect against it.. so the only way to 100% guarantee you didn’t come into contact with it would be abstinence!

80-90% of people who are sexually active have HPV