Wanking - cheating?

[Onlylovecansetyoufree]

I have a friend who has an arrangement with a MM (she is also married) where they send photos to each other to wank over. She says this isn't cheating. All our friends say it is. What do you all think?

Thanks.

Do women really wank to photos sent by ordinary men?

IME women aren't that visual and prefer to close their eyes and use their imagination inventing a sex act happening.

And surely if a woman DID find photos of men wank fodder they could go online and look at good, clear, well lit photos/films of fit young well hung gorgeous men. Not some low quality badly lit phone snap of an ordinary married bloke.

So they send photos to each other. They then wank.
Is that it? What happens next?
I'd be very surprised if they weren't then indulging in some sort of sex chat about the wanking.

It's cheating and as I said, I'd be surprised if the photos are the extent of what is going on there.

@spotcheck. I couldn’t agree more. Personally I find ongoing sleazy disrespectful behaviour just as bad as a drunken one off shag. I’m amazed what some people put up with just as long as their partner hasn’t stuck his dick in someone or the reverse for women.

Is the friend's partner aware and happy? Genuine question- not all relationships are the same and if it works for them and everyone knows the score, it's not cheating.

In my relationship and I imagine the majority of relationships, it would absolutely be cheating.

Yes dirty cheaters and to be totally honest I wouldn't have any further involvement with them. Not interested in being friends with people who don't have any morals. Judgy?.Absolutely!

Whether. People think it's cheating or not it's grubby and sleazy.
Personally I wouldn't want to be with anyone that could be described as that!

Yes it's sexting. Most people would consider this cheating.

If my husband was sending nude pics and getting them, then yes.. that’s cheating.

There’s no excuse (it’s only pics) in my book. It’s inappropriate.

Yep cheating for sure.

Is the man she's doing it with a previous partner?
How do you start a conversation to get to be involved in the sort of arrangement?!

StrychnineInTheSandwiches

piss funny that comment

That is gross. Yes cheating and breaking the trust and bond that is supposed to be in a committed relationship. Yuk he would be gone as dirty b&stard. The woman is no better.

Appreciate your thoughts. Personally, I think this is the tail end of an affair of some sort but she says it isn’t.

Appreciate your thoughts. Personally, I think this is the tail end of an affair of some sort but she says it isn’t

Or the start of something.
Sounds like an emotional affair up to this point which has progressed into sending pictures which, according to them, is not cheating - except it is!

@Onlylovecansetyoufree

I have a friend who has an arrangement with a MM (she is also married) where they send photos to each other to wank over. She says this isn't cheating. All our friends say it is. What do you all think?

Thanks.

If it's not cheating, she's happy to share the snaps with her DH & tell him all about her wank-partner then, yeah?

Would love to hear her get out of that one OP. Why don't you put it to her?

Perukes would fly.

@StrychnineInTheSandwiches

@Onlylovecansetyoufree

Thanks everyone. All of your thoughts are what we've been saying to her but she's not listening. I wish she'd never told me!

Well I was wondering why she did. Exhibitionism-by-proxy, & attention-seeking is my guess. Wants to be the star of the "I'm SO attractive to men!" show, but not take responsibility for it. Hence the "oh but we're not cheeeeeeeting ..."

What a selfish, shallow little wanker she is.

A couple of issues:

Sharing intimate pics outside of the relationship
The inevitability of it escalating

Also :

Cheating aside, do women really wank over photos of dicks sent to them on their phones?

This. I’m not going to detail my proclivities on here but pics of the same erect todger over and over seem a bit boring no?

Gross lol

Are they 15?

Well, it probably is on the spectrum of cheating- how did they find each other and why haven’t they met up in real life? Cheating aside, all these people saying it’s gross- have you never been in a long distance relationship? There are plenty of ways to keep things hot and exciting!

As PP Said, if their partners know, then it's ok. But if it's a secret, then they are in murky waters.

IMO it's an emotional affair

And she actually talks about this?

Inappropriate in a relationship how ever you dress it up does't really matter what label you give it .

@GroggyLegs

Course it's cheating. And its gross.

This thread is amazing. Debating whether to change my MN name to:
JenniferfromZumba
BareOrifice
EternallyThirstyEgo or
PerukesWillFly

JenniferfromZumba ! Winner for me!