Wanking - cheating?

[Onlylovecansetyoufree]

I have a friend who has an arrangement with a MM (she is also married) where they send photos to each other to wank over. She says this isn't cheating. All our friends say it is. What do you all think?

Thanks.

Utterly gross and def cheating!

OP if your post said they were sending eachother sex texts/messages that suggested EA then why is this even a question!

Ugh. I'd leave dh if he were doing this.

@BrendaBubbles

Where do you draw the line? If you sent someone clothed pictures of yourself to wank over would that be cheating or not?

Well it's up to individual couples where they draw the line. I'd certainly be having words if my DH was sending clothed selfies of himself to another woman. But if he then tried to get all Rumpole of the Bailey with me and argued that there was no difference between him sending a selfie and a picture of his erect cock, well let's just say that a very vigorous debate would ensue. Perukes would fly.

I have a friend

Sure you do.......

Course its cheating. I think anything like this , where the OH isn't aware, is obviously cheating. What would your husbands reaction be? I think your answer lies there.

I dont think it is cheating in the true sense of the word but its a betrayal non the less. Im sure most people know by now you can get 'amateur' porn on the internet where people upload nudes of themselves. Wanking over that is one thing but there is a sizable difference between that and sending someone a nude picture of yourself to wank over.

I suppose its where your moral compass lies really. If you only consider cheating to be physical contact with someone then you wont see this as betraying your partner.

This is a disloyal act.

People get so hung up on whether or not someone has stuck bits of them inside someone else. It's like any kind of disloyalty is ok, as long as sex didn't physically happen.

It's ok to sack someone for being disloyal.

Thanks everyone. All of your thoughts are what we've been saying to her but she's not listening. I wish she'd never told me!

I would ask myself,

"Does it bother me that Bob, my otherwise loving husband, sends dick pics to Yvonne in Accounting and wanks over her pics on a Saturday night when I'm out at work?"

Yes? Or No?
I'd let that response inform me.

My answer is yes.

If she's happy she's not cheating, then she'll be fine with you discussing it with her husband, won't she?

If I caught my DH wanking over a lady friends nudes that she'd send him for this purpose...It would end our marriage, without question.

Your friend is grim, I'd probably end the friendship if I was you.

100% cheating, I have had this same conversation. Although it was the man involved saying that it wasn't cheating to video call someone and watch each other. Apparently even together in person and 'touching' each other isn't cheating as they didn't have sex.

IMO anything that is personal, including just chat of a sexual nature is over the line for me.

That's bizarre and very very weird.

Course it's cheating. And its gross.

This thread is amazing. Debating whether to change my MN name to:
JenniferfromZumba
BareOrifice
EternallyThirstyEgo or
PerukesWillFly

Literally who would be okay with this! Obviously not okay in any way.

This circumstance, yes. They're getting away with it on the technicality that they're not in the same room.
Sending photos for that intent is cheating.
If they were showing each other their bodies via video or doing it in person without touching each other, it would seem worse. The scenario is a bit different but the intention is the same.

@Onlylovecansetyoufree

I have a friend who has an arrangement with a MM (she is also married) where they send photos to each other to wank over. She says this isn't cheating. All our friends say it is. What do you all think?

Thanks.

It depends on the origin al parameters that was agreed upon with each couples relationships

I am definitely of the view that this is cheating especially as it's being done without their partners knowing. You know you're doing something/saying something disrespectful to your partner if you are doing it behind their back.

My DH and I are of the view "if you wouldn't say it/do it with your partner around then you know it's wrong".

Would she be happy to her husband the message exchanges? Does she think her husband would be ok with it? If not, then she’s crossed the line.

It's not just wanking though, is it? It's sending and receiving intimate pictures of another person.

Wanking can be a solo activity. It doesn't require you to involve other people. They are choosing to involve each other.

Genuine question!

Cheating aside, do women really wank over photos of dicks sent to them on their phones?

Seriously?

It's not cheating, but really rubbish odd ball behaviour. I come from the days of niceness and romance regarding some male and female behaviour, and not having to witness some crappy awful naked photo's on someones phone.

It's a sexual act, however virtually, with another person. Of course it's cheating

It’s cheating. Sexting is cheating. Lots of people turn a blind eye though.