My boyfriend just gave me a “stay positive” mug!

[Alwayswanting1]

Probably just being ott but I’m a bit offended, I don’t have to be positive all the time. When it’s shit it’s shit! If I want to rant I’ll rant doesn’t mean I’m not positive.

Am I over reacting here?

Yes

Yep, you’re overreacting.

Ok I’ll go make a tea in it.

Yes you are. But it also sounds like he’s getting sick of the rants.

You sound a bit negative tbh

@Alwayswanting1

Ok I’ll go make a tea in it.

That's the spirit!

No id hate that too. It’s got a name - toxic positivity. “Positive vibes only” and all that shit.

However… I think it always pays to think about what a person’s intent was. If he meant to be a dick then yea, be angry. But if he was trying to cheer you up, maybe let it go. He probably didn’t think that hard about it. Or educate him gently.

@Alwayswanting1

Ok I’ll go make a tea in it.

A positivitea?

Oh @SecretKeeper1 that’s bad.

I agree with you! Toxic positivity absolutely ruins being able to genuinely deal with situations with the appropriate reaction and emotion.

I don't have to be positive all the time. Sometimes a positive reaction is not the one that is needed.

I think I see it as people think women have to smile and me lovely and be positive and we don't.

However... I imagine your boyfriend was trying to be nice and saw it as something that would bring something nice to your life.

Look up toxic positivity... we are your tribe (we're the angry ones in the corner)

Yes @HummingBeeBox I hate these kind of quotes. This whole put a smile on your face and get on with it has got me in a mess previous. I have some really heavily stuff going on and stay positive won’t work for this. It’s bad and it will be bad till its over. His time and love and to sit with me to ride it out is what I need.

You could drop it from a height…

Lol, sounds like you need the mug.

I once gave one of these as a secret santa present at work.
It wasn't meant to be lighthearted, I and everyone else was just fed up of colleague's constant moaning.

Yes we all get a bit fed up sometimes and like a bit of a moan, but some people don't appear to want to solve any problems; they simply want to do the whole woe is me thing constantly.

I'm sure that's not you op, but it might be worth considering if you constantly moan about the same thing over and over again, when there are solutions however difficult.

My Uncle bought me a mug once, it has a stylised picture of a badger face with glowing red eyes on it. Underneath the badger it bears the legend "BRING IT."

He said he saw it and immediately thought of me

One of my firmly held life principles is that I will not take life advice from a motivational cushion cover.

Deface the mug.

When I had PND my MIL (for my birthday) bought me a card that said 'cheer up' on it

Could be worse

I had a huge row with my partner this evening for telling me to ‘be positive’ about something that was upsetting me. Hate that shit.

@scoopydoopy

When I had PND my MIL (for my birthday) bought me a card that said 'cheer up' on it

Could be worse

Oof.

Maybe he's felt something brewing for a while. It's better to say something now rather than letting things boil over. And let's face it, you don't want to turn into an old bag. So try not to see this as him stirring the pot.

I once bought dh a 'mr grumpy' mug. He refused to use it and when it was finally broken he was thrilled!

RobertaFirmino
Excellent!!!

@RobertaFirmino

Maybe he's felt something brewing for a while. It's better to say something now rather than letting things boil over. And let's face it, you don't want to turn into an old bag. So try not to see this as him stirring the pot.

Excellent

Its just a mug enjoy your tea

I’d denote it to my toothbrush mug

Demote!