I recently found out that DH has spent the night in a hotel in another town with another woman whilst I was away for the weekend. He says that she is just an old friend and nothing happened between them (they just slept in the same bed after a few drinks apparently but no s*x). I’ve never ever heard of this ‘friend’, you’d have thought he might have mentioned a 25-year-old friendship! He said he can’t see the issue with them sharing a hotel room as they are more like brother and sister.
I found out as I saw a message on his phone telling her that he was in town for the night and asking her if she wanted to come to a hotel.
DH says he has never told me about his friend because she is a woman and he knew I would be upset – and he says my reaction to finding out proves to him that he was right to say nothing (I was pretty angry!). Am I overreacting? Can men and women have a platonic relationship? Should married men spend nights in hotels with other women and not tell their wives?