What causes the most arguments in your relationships?

[PearLime]

Lighthearted.

The most frequent argument me and my ex had was because he (early bird) had told me a vital piece of information in the morning before work, which I (night owl) had not listened to at all and completely forgotten!

What causes the most arguments in your relationship?

MIL

I find my DP dull/slow at times and this seeps out into irritation over small things because I can’t voice the real frustration.

It's always down to communication, either things aren't communicated clearly or things get misheard.

My husband farting in bed and then raising the covers so I’m forced to smell. I’ve considered murdering him in his sleep many times because of this. It infuriates me and I miss the days when he would not dare have farted in front of me.. but here we are.

@MarshmallowSwede

My husband farting in bed and then raising the covers so I’m forced to smell. I’ve considered murdering him in his sleep many times because of this. It infuriates me and I miss the days when he would not dare have farted in front of me.. but here we are.

My ex called this a "Dutch oven".

I wonder why I left him

Genuinely, how to organise our (very small) kitchen.

Does my fucking HEAD in. We both have different, equally chaotic systems and our life is a slow back and forth between the two as one of us changes things round to our way.

...no, we will never compromise or come to an agreement (until we buy a house, which we both agree has 'actual kitchen' as a priority). I kind of enjoy our monthly argument about the correct way to store tupperware. 🤣

After years of horrendous relationships, it's nice that this is the biggest thing we row about!

Housework

@scarpa

Genuinely, how to organise our (very small) kitchen.

Does my fucking HEAD in. We both have different, equally chaotic systems and our life is a slow back and forth between the two as one of us changes things round to our way.

...no, we will never compromise or come to an agreement (until we buy a house, which we both agree has 'actual kitchen' as a priority). I kind of enjoy our monthly argument about the correct way to store tupperware. 🤣

After years of horrendous relationships, it's nice that this is the biggest thing we row about!

A Tupperware argument... love it.

Sort of like the argument equivalent of a Tupperware party!

DIY
Anything to do with screws, screw drivers, and so on! We get it done, but oh dear! We are getting better with time though. We now have differences that get sorted on the go!

@Whenigrowupiwanttobea

MIL

Same

I could have written this when I was married to my exhusband. I’m totally convinced that is why women always look older than men after 30 and why they get divorced: english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/?fbclid=IwAR0Raxobb3P0CMfqXBJa30D70rRN3u8ipupfp8a45ER9kxw3jWRZC5VRpGk

LOL about the farting.
Suffocate him, you will walk free, no charges. Wrap yourself in the bed covers, and around him when he is asleep. After the farting, just pull covers over him and hold tight!

[quote GrandmasCat]I could have written this when I was married to my exhusband. I’m totally convinced that is why women always look older than men after 30 and why they get divorced: english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/?fbclid=IwAR0Raxobb3P0CMfqXBJa30D70rRN3u8ipupfp8a45ER9kxw3jWRZC5VRpGk[/quote]
The mental load. Yup!

FIL. Drinking. Lack of his share of housework. Lying in every day now he’s retired.

Most arguments happen when Im driving & he is in the passenger seat…….

The fact that I'm a really cuddly, affectionate person and he's the complete opposite

Jobs half done, like glasses by the dishwasher — www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Him bring a twat. He’s never wrong🙄

Every damned thing. I'm happily single now. I am just not interested in selfish, lazy, needy men.

The heating...always on.

One of his DC's.

Oh and the position of the tele in the living room. 😂

Directions when driving and flat pack furniture

@Mrsbclinton

Most arguments happen when Im driving & he is in the passenger seat…….

This.

Drives me absolutely bonkers. Interestingly we have both been driving for the same time and in that same time he has reversed into bollards, hit a bus, put petrol in a diesel car.... cost us hundreds of ££ in driving fuck ups. Me on the other hand, no accidents/incidents or such alike. I feel quite rageful even thinking about this- grrrrrrrrr!

Whether Jacinda Ardern is a great leader (me) or a socialist dictator (him). Every morning with the political debating. I love/hate it.
Genuine fights are cause by conflicts over his or my mobile phone use (I hate him being on his phone in front of the kids ; he hates me waking up in the middle of the night to go on my phone because that's the only time I get to scroll without feeling like I'm setting a bad example)

Housework and how to handle our eldest child who may/may not have sen