What causes the most arguments in your relationships?

[PearLime]

Lighthearted.

The most frequent argument me and my ex had was because he (early bird) had told me a vital piece of information in the morning before work, which I (night owl) had not listened to at all and completely forgotten!

What causes the most arguments in your relationship?

His table manners. We went out for a meal for our second date and he had impeccable manners. Now, years later, the amount of food he puts in his mouth is disgusting. He can finish a normal size packet of crisps in 2 mouthfuls. Or if eating with cutlery he will keep adding forkful after forkful without swallowing. Even if it’s hot, so he’s trying to breathe while eating it to cool it while still shovelling more in. Revolting.

His inability to put lids back on jars, especially the mayonnaise.

His inability to indicate when turning left at a roundabout. Followed by his over-indicating when going straight across (indicates right, quickly followed by left, thereby confusing everyone waiting).

His inability to take control of anything or face any tough decisions. We have a huge row, he promised he will deal with it, he doesn't, over time my seething resentment comes back, it builds up, we have a huge row... rinse and repeat...

Oh and the position of the tele in the living room

Us too many years ago. He wanted it more forward to the front of the TV stand/cabinet, but I though it should obviously be pushed back more against the wall. He saw the error of his ways.

Usually something to do with what we agreed and one of us has forgotten/changed our mind.

Also him harassing me to be ready to go out 20 minutes before the agreed time. I’m always ready on time but he feels the need to hurry me up every time. I suspect he thinks I’m only ready on time because he chivied me along

That when he has used the last of an item of food or drink he will put the empty bottle, carton , packet etc back in the fridge or cupboard. I want to inflict harm on him every time.

Where do I start..

He will bring in the washing but leave a sock on the line.

He washes up and puts all the things he doesn’t know where to put on the windowsill.

He has no idea how to stack a dishwasher properly.

He doesn’t know how to set the timer on the heating or hot water control and has only recently learned to turn it on or off

He hasn’t ironed in longer than I can remember, or used the washing machine.

He leaves things out for me to put away because he ‘doesn’t see them’

His driving has become dangerously careless and he hardly ever gets into fourth gear.

He doesn’t know anything about any of our policies and hardly ever checks the bank account.

I’m getting angry now!

@thenightsky

His inability to put lids back on jars, especially the mayonnaise.

His inability to indicate when turning left at a roundabout. Followed by his over-indicating when going straight across (indicates right, quickly followed by left, thereby confusing everyone waiting).

The indicating at the roundabout is just... bizarre!!

Trying to leave the house.

He thinks I take too long to get ready. The real issue is that he gets himself ready and then stands by the door waiting to leave (and shouting at me to hurry up), whereas I get myself ready, get DD ready, pack a bag making sure we have nappies, snacks, drinks, make the beds, make sure all the windows are shut, put the breakfast stuff in the dishwasher, put a load of washing on and then leave the house.
He doesn’t seem to realise that we would all be out faster if he did any of these things

Parenting, 100%. We virtually never argued before having DC. I could honestly never have predicted that our parenting styles would be different, let alone sooo different.

Nothing, really. I think he runs the tap too much when he’s doing the washing up, leaves the fridge door open too long and he seems incapable of turning the lights off when he leaves a room. We don’t argue about it, I just look at him beadily and mutter about climate change.

Other than that, this a peaceful household.

The bastard dishwasher. And recycling. Putting shit on top of these things does not count as putting them away

His drinking, money spent on it, behaviour when doing it.

He talks too much, especially when I'm watching something on the tv. I go "ssssshhh" and he gives me a puzzled look. Infuriating.

The whites! Nearly 20years together and “the whites” cause an argument at least every 2 weeks! For some reason the man cannot fathom that whites are to be washed separately!! He’s a very much intelligent, functioning adult but cannot grasp this tiny concept!! So much so that I have to hide whites and wash them when he’s not around

Lightbulbs. I feel irritated just typing the word.

Him never cleaning or keeping things tidy. How to manage our preschooler's tantrums.

General messiness. How he creates such a state in so little time I'll never know. Leaving cupboard doors and the fridge open. Forgetting inconsequential things I'll tell him and then want to bring up later (like the Netflix Britney documentary). Farting with abandon.

That said, I've been in my share of relationships with horrific abuses, never again, I'll take as many farts and open cupboard doors as he can give me, he's a wonderful (slobby) man

Money...... And cleaning! He likes to put everything back or tidied away as soon as possible whereas I don't take much notice of random items unless they're on the floor.

His.damn.family.

Her: The Ex Wife
Me: When she grabs/squeezes too hard and hurts

DIY. Nothing gets us in an argument so we’ll as discussing how something should be done or has been done and at what cost.

stuff not being where I left it 🙄

Unfair distribution of labour

The fact he has a job that involves him doing bugger all and loafing about "working from home" but never does any housework, but considers that ok because he's still getting paid.