My ex of 20 years and I broke up after I discovered her cheating... she was very career driven so our 6 year old daughter came with me.
I met another woman 4 months ago and we get on like a house on fire.. it’s only been a short time but I have fallen for her and she says she feels the same.
She split up with her husband of 15 years about 8 months ago.
They own a house together and she owns a flat five minutes away from there marital home and he moved into the flat. They have a teenage son and she has a 24 year old son from a previous marriage.
The thing is, he is in there marital home quite a lot. Always calling in for dinner... calling in to watch football... to make them dinner etc. He uses her car on a daily basis.. if she breaks down he basically runs to the rescue and gets it fixed etc... if she has problems with the gardener... or anyone for that matter she calls him round to sort it. Nearly everything that goes on in the house... he is involved in.
He was around making dinner one afternoon and he went upstairs and saw her lying naked... which she told me about.
She still wears a wedding ring which she says has sentimental value as her mother bought the stone... but I thought... well why not put it on another finger... Facebook status.. married.
She won’t tell him about us saying she doesn’t want a messy divorce. She is selling the flat in a couple of weeks and told me she would tell him once he was off the street.. but now she isn’t telling him
She has sent me a couple of msgs meant for him stating little things like “don’t worry about it xx” kisses at the end of msgs isn’t usually what ex’s do.... I’ve never seen it before.
She was with me tonight, and her husband sat in there house with the two kids... once it got quite late she started getting anxious saying he was going to hit the roof... he also started txting saying “where are you” but it’s not like he was needed to sit with there teenage son as her older child was there.
She has been away with me for the odd night, one minute it seems she is being really truthful with me, telling me about the naked incident and the next minute it feels like they are not ex’s at all.
I am still very fragile after I found my ex cheating and I am getting to the point I don’t know where to turn, this woman is really special to me but I have a gut feeling. I am trying to trust her but it’s very hard .. I can’t get hurt again, my daughter is depending on me.
I brought some of this up with her and she assured me there was nothing behind it and understood how it could all come across.... I even finished it with her but she turned up at my doorstep the very next day... she obviously has feelings for me... I have tried to get over it over the past couple of weeks but both his and her behaviour tonight just doesn’t add up.
I don’t know if I am reading to much into it... or paranoid and I have no one to talk to.
Please help.