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Fed up of my bfs wierdness.

46 replies

buttercup1001 · 20/09/2021 06:42

I was talking to my cat in the bedroom and my bf come up and said who u speaking to saying "aw your beautiful"was talking to my cat he said he won't wait around for me to cheat wtf like this is just one of a few wierd episodes.who can I be talking to when it's only me and the cat in the room.irs wierd the things he does he says I'm chatting to ppl when I'm sat right next to him and weird stuff like that . listening to my conversations if I pop to the shop and a close friend or neighbor starts talking to me in the street.hes been cheated on before maybe it's just him being paranoid from wat he's been threw.

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GreyCarpet · 20/09/2021 06:47

Fed up of my bfs wierdness

Thank fuck for that. Now just dump him.

ChaToilLeam · 20/09/2021 06:48

Get rid! You don’t need this paranoid, possessive shit.

Sparklfairy · 20/09/2021 06:51

Awful controlling psychotic behaviour. Dump him.

StMarysKettle · 20/09/2021 06:53

Well you're not fed up of it are you, you're sticking around

CloseYourEyesAndSee · 20/09/2021 06:54

It's not weirdness it's controlling and abusive. Please dump him.

MaizeBlouse · 20/09/2021 06:56

He won't change. It will just get worse. You can do so much better.
It not 'weirdness' it's controlling behaviour.
Please please leave him.

Withgasoliiiiine · 20/09/2021 07:03

Fuck this. He gets jealous and paranoid when you talk to your cat.

You can do better. The cheating in his past wasn't your fault.

GreyCarpet · 20/09/2021 07:04

Everyone is wasting their time responding.

The OP has started several posts abut this man over the last couple of weeks. How he talks about the cat is the least of it - he recently strangled her and her son isn't allowed to live with her because of him.

She is obviously in a very bad place but keeps making extra posts about the tiny incidental stuff because I think she is hoping someone will respond with, "Aw, that's sweet it's because he loves you so much."

Choccorocco · 20/09/2021 07:08

Time to leave him. Phone a friend, go to family. You can do this, it will be hard, but you will look back and be grateful for your courage xx

PerseverancePays · 20/09/2021 07:19

Your boyfriend is weird and not in a good way. You don’t need to put up with this, you don’t need your child to learn how to be weird from him.

Maybebaby8 · 20/09/2021 07:25

My partner and I are both clumsy, we've both accidentally broken thing's of each others, dropped a mug etc, but never have we ever binned important personal documents, we always set them aside and double check.

Just leave him. I'm sure this isn't the first instance of controlling behaviour

Bananalanacake · 20/09/2021 07:25

Hoping you don't have DC or live together so it's much easier to dump him. Cats come before men.

NotReallyAPrincess · 20/09/2021 07:28

@GreyCarpet

Everyone is wasting their time responding.

The OP has started several posts abut this man over the last couple of weeks. How he talks about the cat is the least of it - he recently strangled her and her son isn't allowed to live with her because of him.

She is obviously in a very bad place but keeps making extra posts about the tiny incidental stuff because I think she is hoping someone will respond with, "Aw, that's sweet it's because he loves you so much."

Thought the username was familiar Sad
GreyCarpet · 20/09/2021 07:31

OP, you are not going to get what you want from this thread any more than any other.

People.posting here are telling you it's going to get worse and they're right. It already worse. He has strangled you and your son is not allowed to live with you because you prioritise this man over him.

You won't seek medical help for ongoing issues as a result of the strangulation because you are trying to minimise this man's behaviour to the LA so that he can be allowed around your son.

People who are telling OP it will get worse, it already is.

GreyCarpet · 20/09/2021 07:36

I wouldn't normally draw attention to the fact someone has previously posted - sometimes different threads illicit different responses from different posters but this isn't helpful because the situation is so serious and no response to her initial post here is going to help her.

GreyCarpet · 20/09/2021 07:36

*elicit 🙄

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buttercup1001 · 20/09/2021 07:55

I thought he could get help but it's been years since he's had it I'm to soft for my own good.bdcause he's moved most of his stuff in recently without me saying to I just agreed to save a row it's harder to tell him to leave .he's got mood issues etc so doing it has to be planned out properly and yes I am taking advice on board.

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buttercup1001 · 20/09/2021 07:56

Yes can't even talk to the cat he thinks it's me on the phone or someone talking to me in the same room as me I find it hard to get a person in threw the top bedroom window but hey hoo In his mind it happens.

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twoandeights · 20/09/2021 07:59

You don’t have to keep justifying yourself. Get rid of this loser.

JordieLass · 20/09/2021 08:01

Yawn.

I suspect it’s all nonsense.

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buttercup1001 · 20/09/2021 08:05

I was talking to my son on the phone yesterday and he said mum I miss u and I love u and I said aw I miss and love u to.he then said who u talking to your son's dad then I said thank u for the gift he gave me as it was my birthday I said thank u so much he then said what your son's dad has got u something has he I was very much about to lose my mind with him it had to bite my lip as he would of flipped out.i don't understand it does he really bleive these things r happening .

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buttercup1001 · 20/09/2021 08:06

JordieLass as I have said I'm secluded in a town away from family etc this is the only place to vent off with what's going on.

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CallMeNutribullet · 20/09/2021 08:07

So you've picked this nutcase over your son?

Billandbob · 20/09/2021 08:09

Tell him to fuck off op…he’s showing you who he is.

GreyCarpet · 20/09/2021 08:22

@buttercup1001

I thought he could get help but it's been years since he's had it I'm to soft for my own good.bdcause he's moved most of his stuff in recently without me saying to I just agreed to save a row it's harder to tell him to leave .he's got mood issues etc so doing it has to be planned out properly and yes I am taking advice on board.
I hope your son's social worker knows he's now living with you and doesn't think youre still living separately.

You'll never get your son back at this rate.

All you need to understand is that he's a dangerous, violent, controlling, manipulative abuser. Everything he does is for this reason and no other. There is no understanding him beyond this.

I would say call the police and get him out but you won't.

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