Fed up of my bfs wierdness.

[buttercup1001]

I was talking to my cat in the bedroom and my bf come up and said who u speaking to saying "aw your beautiful"was talking to my cat he said he won't wait around for me to cheat wtf like this is just one of a few wierd episodes.who can I be talking to when it's only me and the cat in the room.irs wierd the things he does he says I'm chatting to ppl when I'm sat right next to him and weird stuff like that . listening to my conversations if I pop to the shop and a close friend or neighbor starts talking to me in the street.hes been cheated on before maybe it's just him being paranoid from wat he's been threw.

I can't believe you're still with him, never mind posting again.

Good point @GreyCarpet.

@buttercup1001, are SS and your son's dad aware he is living with you?

I remember your last thread. This man is not going to change and become a good family man. This man his going to kill you.

You've chosen this shit over your own son?

Children and animals before men.
LTB.

Can I ask what you want from this thread @buttercup1001? Have you spoken to your support worker, what advice have they given?

Oh good God, this is the worst thing I've read this year.
He'll kill you. Or your son.

I don't understand. He's moved in by stealth and you didn't want to upset him?

Lordy woman, get rid

Oh it's you again
Fgs

Can people posting and being short remember this isn't AIBU, OP is a VICTIM here despite her misgivings snd is continuing to post here, which shows she is listening, taking advice (and criticism) on board and still comes back. Extremely unhelpful to post "no sympathy for you/it's made up/fuck off".

@GreyCarpet

Everyone is wasting their time responding.

The OP has started several posts abut this man over the last couple of weeks. How he talks about the cat is the least of it - he recently strangled her and her son isn't allowed to live with her because of him.

She is obviously in a very bad place but keeps making extra posts about the tiny incidental stuff because I think she is hoping someone will respond with, "Aw, that's sweet it's because he loves you so much."

i remember those posts , mumsnet stopped people commenting in the end because it was useless and she wasnt listening to any advice about leaving him , and yet shes obviously still with him now

You talk about things having to be planned properly for you to leave, what plans do you have? Are you in contact with Women's Aid? You are doing the right thing by thinking and planning as he is unwell and you need to be safe.

i remember those posts , mumsnet stopped people commenting in the end because it was useless and she wasnt listening to any advice about leaving him , and yet shes obviously still with him now

It's only been 18 days since OP posted her first thread. Leaving takes time. Multiple attempts even.

Jesus, he's not weird OP, he's a total cunt.

Please pack up his stuff and get him out. You need to change the locks.

OP it sounds like you've got a lot of worries in your life. I hadn't seen your other threads but I'm glad you keep posting even if you haven't taken the advice straight away. Better than you having nobody to talk to. But you can make things better for you and your son. Someone controlling and strangling you is not what happens in a good relationship, or even an ok one.

So, it's your house/flat and he has moved his stuff in without asking, is that right?

What do you think would happen if you boxed this all up, left it outside or dropped it off to somewhere he can collect it and messaged saying 'our relationship is over. Please do not come round or contact me again', and changed the locks'? Do you want that to happen? Because it might take some courage and a bit of preparation but it's well within your power to do this.

Please get help

We're just bobbing on here to say that we're so sorry to hear you're still going through this, OP. We know we've directed you to our [[https://www.mumsnet.com/webguide/domestic-violence Domestic
Violence]]web-guide before but we're going to steer you towards it again in the hope that it may help.

We're also going to close this thread to new comments now so that you can seek some help in real life. With very best wishes from all at MNHQ.