I have posted on the topic before but I am at my wits end with my DH and MIL again.
My DH came home with roses for me last week amd said they wrere an early anniversary present. A few days later when MIL was here and saw my roses she was gushing about how lovely her identical roses were.
This week my husband is taking his mum to two places I consider date night places we go to together - a nice music classical festival where you dress up, and a lido/ spa and restaurant.
Frankly I am creeped out about it.
I don’t want to be treated same as my MIL. It takes romance away.
The issue is how to raise this with my DH.
Only two weeks ago we had a raging argument in which he said I sickened him as I dared to criticise his mum - I and DH had Covid and we needed help to get daughters to school who had had multiple neg tests. She lives 5 mins away. She said she was going to my SILs and refused to change her trip by 2 days to help us. Neither she nor SIL work amd dates could have been changed. Then my SIL also got Covid so trip was off, but for all isolation she offered no help with anything. She didn’t even ask how I was and sent a random WhatsApp from the beach bragging about that day trip without asking how we all were. I said her behaviour was unreasonable to my DH but he worships her as though she is a saint and said she’s does loads for us which is simply untrue. He does lots of jobs to help her all the time though - she even starts asking for help at midnight when we have come back from date night on the rare occasion she might babysit.
So I am terrified of raising the issue but equally grossed out appalled and angry about it all
Any advice welcome