I met my OH 3 years ago when he was just getting divorced from his wife of 20+ years. He’s been living in my 2 bed terrace, having had to sell a large detached property he’d renovated himself. He’s suggested I sell and we pool our money to buy a 3 bed detached house. Sounds good right?
My slight concerns are and maybe this is just me, but the house he likes is in the same village he used to live in (his sister lives there and some of his old friends) and the plans he’s had drawn up are for a massive extension costed at around £100k that to me look like a replica of his old house.
His kids are all grown up and I don’t have any so I don’t see any need to spend huge amount of money on turning a large 3 bed suburban house into an even bigger 4 bed, with, obvs, the modern massive lounge, giant kitchen with island and ridiculous vaulted ceilings.
The mortgage repayments and bills will leave us with almost no disposable income.
My sense is he wants to recreate his old house and life/status but at the expense of us having a life. We’ve looked at other houses in the area but feel like he’s just giving me lip service so our house search looks fair. He’s already talked about flipping the house after a few years to downsize and gets very grumpy when I suggest more modest properties. I’m worried we’ll be stuck in an expensive overly-large house we can barely afford.