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Original poster

my neighbour lent me his wife's old mobile cos my is kaput and i have found some very saucy texts on it which are not to him....

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cruisemum1 · 05/12/2007 08:47

Should I tell him? They are not too bad but quite obviously to another man and quite obviously sexual. Oh what to do??!!!

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dressedupnowheretogotilxmas · 05/12/2007 08:53

laff with your oh about them and delete them

unless she is a good mate and you feel comfortable opening a can of worms

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cruisemum1 · 05/12/2007 08:55

it is her who is sending hte saucy texts. not him. so just leave it then?

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warthog · 05/12/2007 08:59

you found them in the sent folder?

not your business. stay out.

Dropdeadfred · 05/12/2007 09:00

why on earth are you reading other peoples texts?

slim22 · 05/12/2007 09:00

Of course leave it!
She's not hiding the phone and taking a risk, he can find out for himself if he's clever enough.

claricebeansmum · 05/12/2007 09:01

Don't get involved. Just delete them and try to forget about them.

Someone once passed me a pile of discs for work and in amongst the more boring files was a letter from her to a prostitute - "madam" - telling her what to do to her DH??!!!!

nametaken · 05/12/2007 11:33

Maybe their both testing you.

HappyWoman · 05/12/2007 12:03

maybe they are not from her - maybe she has lent her phone to someone else too.

ggirlsbells · 05/12/2007 12:05

you shouldn't have read them

ignore them

none of your business

ShakeysGirl · 05/12/2007 12:14

Pretend you never saw them

ShinyHappyStarOfBethlehem · 05/12/2007 12:19

Leave it alone!! Delete and leave!

zippitippitoes · 05/12/2007 12:21

just ignore...how odd to lend a phone with the sim card and everything does she kno i wonder

i would kill anyolne who took my phone and gave it to someone else

i'd certainly have to kill anyone who read my messages lol

biglips · 05/12/2007 12:23

its none of your business about it so keep out of it

Anniegetyourgun · 05/12/2007 13:33

There were some saucy messages on my phone the other day. Reason is I lent it to my son to text "a lady" (as he's lost or broken his own phone, a common occurrance), and the girl doesn't seem to have quite grasped that it was his mum's phone so she sent a few follow-ups. I said that's the last time he borrows it unless he can keep his friends under control. He said yeah yeah, wandered upstairs with it to send a few more texts, then the next time I checked it there were another couple of, well, not too racy messages, but a bit warmer than a mum should see. Either he is not explaining clearly or she is exceptionally dense. I don't mind my son dating somebody hot but I shall be upset if he dates somebody stupid. Call me a snob if you must.

HappyWoman · 05/12/2007 15:52

That is funny - i get the same with my son. he gives out my email sometimes and i think some of the girls are a bit short on brain cells as well as skirts.
There have also been some risky photos too but they stopped when i offered to do the same pose.

I wish someone would send me some saucy texts sometimes - if only to make me feel mor popular - all i get are about the kids

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cruisemum1 · 05/12/2007 20:06

crikey! what is this? The morality police?! I did not set out to read her texts, I was navigating around the phone to find out how it worked being that there were no instructions. When i went to the outbox, the message was there staring me in the face! I was shocked to say the least and being only a mere human and being both curious and astonished - I read another one to see if I had misconstrued the situation. I had not . The neighbours are good friends and since it was the husband who had lent me the phone in all innocence I do feel a) guilty that I looked even though it was not what i set out to do and b) sorry that she is doing this to him. Hence my moral dilemma. I know I should not have read the message but it was staring me in the face and I wanted to read on to find out i had got the wrong end of the stick which I quite clearly hadn't . So, in general, your opinion is that I should just not mention anything to him or her???

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GibbonInARibbon · 05/12/2007 20:09

Don't say a word cruise

'shoot the messenger' isn't a well known saying for nowt.

lou33 · 05/12/2007 20:09

ignore them it isnt your concern

zippi, now i will have to find something else to occupy me when i see you, if i cant nosey in your phone

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cruisemum1 · 05/12/2007 20:12

thanks gibbon/lou33. I will do just that. gonna be difficult though as we are all going out for pre christmas drinks/meal next weekend. Will have to try very hard to be civil.

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milfAKAmonkeymonkeymoomoo · 05/12/2007 20:12

I agree it's not your fault, they lent you a phone and didn't wipe the memory. I agree with the others that you should ignore it unless you are very good friends?

Scanner · 05/12/2007 20:13

Does she know that he's lent you the phone?

GibbonInARibbon · 05/12/2007 20:13

It will be hard, of course, but you honestly won't be thanked petal.

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cruisemum1 · 05/12/2007 20:14

milf - so your one too . my dh is always telling me i am one. Shame i can't be arsed to live up to my pseudomym....
Yeah, I will ignore. it is none of my business. Maybe he is at it too

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lou33 · 05/12/2007 20:14

i know lots of things about my friends that their other halves would not approve of, but would never dream of saying anything

and in fact it's quite easy not to feel uncomfortable in their presence, because you just dont think about it

i'm sure it will be fine

or maybe it's just me with a lack of conscience?

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cruisemum1 · 05/12/2007 20:15

scanner - she knew after the fact. He lent it out of good neighbourliness (word??!). Gibbon - i belive you are right

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