I’ve just had enough now

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So many issues but lately it’s been shitty little comments about how I look and they hurt. Often nothing ‘huge’ just snidey smirky digs that I look like someone unattractive or an elderly family member or just things like that. I ignore them but it hurts

Making arrangements or promises then not sticking to anything and if I bring it up stuff gets smashed and how dare I be like that

Every time I stand up for myself or call out shitty behaviour I get given an example of a time he’s done something nice ?? Wtf like it cancels it out. Right. So we have a situation of for example ‘ well yes I smashed your vase but in 2002 I got you a box of roses so how dare you say I’m unkind’ …….

I’ve just had enough tonight

So leave

He smashes your stuff if you attempt to address bad behaviour on his part???

Get out while it's still just stuff.

Have some self respect. Get shut of him.

And what are this person's good points that makes you give them another chance.

@FetchezLaVache

He smashes your stuff if you attempt to address bad behaviour on his part???

Get out while it's still just stuff.

Yes and I’ve had enough. I’ve had enough of him trying to turn it round that it’s my fault and it’s not. I’m ‘nagging all the time’ well I’m not I’m trying to be an adult and arrange things that need doing he seems to have the view that all he needs to do is work her I have to sort out every single other thing in existence and if I ask for any help it’s nagging when actually I have to work then do 99% Of everything else.

I’m not leaving it’s my house so I’ve said exactly that

It’s the trying to justify shitty behaviour by using past examples of ‘being nice’ that has done it. Total manipulation and I’m out

Did he accidentally knock over you vase or did he intentionally smash it?

Intentionally breaking/smashing things when angry is a huge red flag and highly likely to escalate to physical violence.

I think it's time to move on if that's the case.

I'm so pleased it's your house and (it sounds like) you don't have kids.

Channel that anger into getting rid of this useless toddler man!

He needs to get out of your home. He sounds like he could become a danger to you.

Also the fact I’m exhausted and doing so much and my appearance gets criticism was just disgusting. I feel like someone flicked a switch in my head and all I saw was an obnoxious excuse for a human in front of me who would make someone feel shit when they were already exhausted and

@unsportyspice

He needs to get out of your home. He sounds like he could become a danger to you.

He’s gone. To his mums 😬

Good. Well done for seeing the light and realising what an arsehole he is.
When he comes crawling back make sure you’ve changed the locks and bagged up all his crap. New chapter in your life, free of his nastiness and aggression. Cheers to your new life!

Excellent news, OP!

Bet the fucker will try to wheedle his way back in, though, so stay firm.

Sounds like the wanker I live with.

@Battlingongraciously, do you want to start your own thread to tell us about your wanker?

Change the locks and block his number. At least for the next 30 days.

@Battlingongraciously

Sounds like the wanker I live with.

I’m sorry it’s shit isn’t it

I hope you’re ok

Don’t let the fucker back op!

Thank god it's your house. Change the locks and drop all his crap off at his mum's. If you don't want to do it yourself, ask a friend if they'll do it for you.

[quote FetchezLaVache]@Battlingongraciously, do you want to start your own thread to tell us about your wanker?[/quote]
Nah, gone past wasting my time talking about it.

No offence to OP, wish there's more I could do to help.

Yes, shit is defo what it is OP, thanks for your well wishes x

Your're on your way up (and out) and you sound clear minded which is great.

Stuff gets smashed?? That's enough on its own.

snidey smirky digs - I know exactly what that snide smirkyness is. It's contempt mixed with an arrogance. That kind of dynamic is really unhealthy and I'm glad you realise that.

Not the likes of the OP who has to worry, in fact, she should be doing the sniggering. His problem is much worse, and he thinks it belongs to someone else.

Pardon me for taking the words out of your mouth OP, but what a sad piece of shite he is!!!!!! Perhaps it might be worth a vase breaking just to see how he struggles with not being as good as you!!!!!

And he won't like it at his Mom's! I'd enjoy the time alone, but that's not the point is it.

Mines pissing off on Sat afternoon and coming back Monday. Works do. It will be lovely not to have to listen to his shit, tidy up after him and listen to his loud snoring and the rancid stench that comes from his arse as he sleeps.

Write it down while it's clear. Read it when you have the lonely, tempted moment.