I’ve just had enough now

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So many issues but lately it’s been shitty little comments about how I look and they hurt. Often nothing ‘huge’ just snidey smirky digs that I look like someone unattractive or an elderly family member or just things like that. I ignore them but it hurts

Making arrangements or promises then not sticking to anything and if I bring it up stuff gets smashed and how dare I be like that

Every time I stand up for myself or call out shitty behaviour I get given an example of a time he’s done something nice ?? Wtf like it cancels it out. Right. So we have a situation of for example ‘ well yes I smashed your vase but in 2002 I got you a box of roses so how dare you say I’m unkind’ …….

I’ve just had enough tonight

@Battlingongraciously why are you putting up with this?

OP so glad you're getting clarity

That's the beauty of it, the fact they are there breathing their oxygen and slagging you off when they have utterly no right to.

You know you're the one who should be complaining, yet you hold your tongue with this useless sacks of shit, yet still they believe 'they're entitled' to critisize.

Show him whats what op.
He needs a reality check.

How dare he.

Someone that smirks at people is not partner material.

Put it this way, can you remember the last time you smirked? Let alone at someone else's discomfort or pain? Probably not. Because normal people dont smirk very often. It is the domain of the bully and the abuser. Someone who has a heart full of contempt.

Life is too short to spend in the vicinity of these sorts of people.

What are you doing with this man OP?

He is aggressive and unpleasant to you. That in itself is more than enough reason to leave him regardless of whether - as I suspect - there is more you have not said.

There's no point in this. Good that he has gone. Make a plan now for how you can make this separation permanent and then follow it through.

Ps: you know it's deliberate abuse, planned to intimidate you (and not indiscriminate rage) when it's only your stuff they destroy and never theirs. That's forward planning right there.

If he is gone, you should be wise to get the locks changed asap!

@Pinkbonbon

Someone that smirks at people is not partner material.

Put it this way, can you remember the last time you smirked? Let alone at someone else's discomfort or pain? Probably not. Because normal people dont smirk very often. It is the domain of the bully and the abuser. Someone who has a heart full of contempt.

Life is too short to spend in the vicinity of these sorts of people.

Yes the smirking and arrogance I detest it.

I called him out on it and the personal comments. I said ‘when do I ever say anything unkind about the way you look or dress?? Never! I’d never say anything because I’m not in the business of hurting anyone’s feelings’ he looked utterly horrified that I may have even thought he wasn’t perfect ?? I think that was actually what really pissed him off ?

Anyway, that’s it now. I’ve been doing my best keeping things running and it’s been like doing it all whilst being dragged underwater every few seconds at least now I can get on with life and not be criticised and had a go at constantly

Bravo! I did the same thing last weekend after a holiday where I was moaned at, criticised and had to put up with the F word on a loop. I'd just had enough too.

Well done getting rid. Change the locks, bag up his crap and don't look back.

Well done OP. Onwards and upwards!

Hope you are ok OP, I'm spending another boring night in. Mr unsociable never takes me anywhere, but then with his miserable angry looking face, I don't really want to go anywhere with him anyway!